Boyfriend wants to break up over ntn - he's just not interested right? Am I at fault?

It's been a yr since this relationship began. In the past 4 months:
1. He says I made him feel physically inadequate cause I didn't compliment him on his looks.He's been putting on weight & he's touchy abt it. He didn't tell me abt this for a long time. He says he wants to cut himself.

2. He brings up old problems & says he can't trust me. I asked my friends if they'd break up with their boyfriends over our problems - they said no. I'm mentioning this as I can't list all the problems or it'll be too long.

3. He felt like he wouldn't be a good photographer cause I suggested he do photography & another PG. I'd noticed that he had a flair for social work (my major) & loved helping people. So I suggested he get a social work degree so he can work while pursuing a career in photography. My dad's a photographer & told me that it takes time for talent to be recognized - so he had to work a job too, until his career took off. He still works both jobs, cause he loves both. He was interested at 1st but ltr he decided against my idea. I was disappointed but didn't force it.

4. His sleeping was disturbed for 2 weeks. We went to my doctor & he said has an inferiority complex & is "worried". He refuses to come again. He's verbally abusive & it's like he's a different person now. He doesn't text me as much, doesn't go out with me as much as before & bails on me. He seems disinterested.
He said he doesn't wanna break up & he wants me to wait, so he gets time to think abt stuff - maybe he'd find our problems silly & we'd start over. We said we'd be exclusive & committed for 2 weeks until we make a decision.

I found he'd registered to a pornsite. When I asked him abt it, he said something abt a friend creating it with his ID. he was rude - as if I was always disturbing him & not allowing him to hv his time away from me. I texted "please be faithful or just leave"& he called to say "You just lost yourself a point". I apologized. He said he felt respected when I'm not in his life.

5. He says he doesn't want responsibilities & doesn't feel like he has a voice in this relationship - like how he didn't hit the gym cause I told him to work out at home instead. I wanted him to avoid gymming for a while cause he had low self esteem body-wise & I didn't want him working out to get "sexier" but to get healthy. His psychiatrist advised the same thing. I didn't forbid him to go, I just told him I disapprove of it for now.

6. He says he never gets time for friends cause of me. When we hv college, we meet daily & don't get time for friends til weekend. He didn't sleepover cause I couldn't sleep without him cause of d trauma from a previous abusive relationship. He cud've met them or talked to them, he didnt. I've had the same deal & I managed to check in with my pals. Although I agree that this is something that needs to change, I don't think I'd break up with him over it.

My doctor says he's lost interest & is giving excuses to end it. He was understanding & helped me heal from my past abuse, until this started.Rarely he says he knows what we hv is real & he'd let these problems go if he loved me, but his ego & hurt won't let him. But most of the time he's rude & tries to be away from me. He says he doesn't want any responsibilities.

After d break he said he wanted to be with me but he couldn't trust me & blames me still. He said if I move on he wanted to knw so I said we'd be friends so he'll know wat's going on. He said maybe if things change ltr we can be together again. He kept repeating that it'd b good if I didn't tell a lot of ppl cuz he doesn't want ppl thinking he's abusive. I started thinking he's giving me excuses for leaving & that he's basically just not interested nemore & doesn't want committment. So I asked him if he met some1 else & lost interest in me or he just got bored, I deserve to know the truth as to y he's leavin after promising so much.

My old bffs once called him an asshole & we stopped talking to them over it. He didn't want me talkin to them saying he wouldn't hv if his friends had called me a *****.

After he broke up with me, I told them wat happened cause they're all d support I hv. He got really angry that I told them & said he's breaking up with me (again?), shouting abt how he knows who I am now & that I should **** off. When I said he didn't even give me a reason for leaving, cause no1 would do that, he said "so what?"

My bffs think he just lost interest, but wanted me to pine after him so he cud hv me whenever he wanted, & think he's a gud guy so I don't tell ppl wat he did or get sense knocked into me. I kinda agree with them now.

Because I think that if I was going through an identity crisis or feelings of inadequacy, I'd turn to my boyfriend for help, I wouldn't push him away. He has seemed to be losing interest over a few months now - bails on me a lot, doesn't turn up (like if we agree to hit the beach one morning he doesn't bother to set alarms to wake up) & he doesn't text much anymore & doesn't text the way he used to either.

I can see that he's going through something emotionally but I don't see how that is a factor in this - he's been really abusive lately, keeps ending it. He seemed happy to end it, while at the same time managing to get me to not blame him. I guess he wanted me to wait around for him so that he can get back to me if he changes his mind. He was also so particular abt me not telling people. I don't think the reasons he states are enough to break up with some1. He never clearly tells me what I did to "ruin his life".

Please help. Do you think he did not want the relationship anymore? Or that he had issues?

Yeah, I lost a couple friends over one of these. I replied to your other post.

I'd say focus on getting through your past stuff.

Do I think, he did not want the relationship anymore? Do you want to be involved with someone who wouldn't just come out and say that? And is the emotional rollercoaster ride, even worth the time and energy?

Will your BFF, take you back as a friend? Mine wouldn't.

Ok, Im gonna say it straight. If you stay in this relationship you will be exhausted. If you stay in this relationship you are going to have to dedicate yourself to being this guys teacher and trainer and counsellor. Is that something you want, to spend all your energy trying to nanny him? NO. Believe me..I KNOW. Skip it and leave him hes a headf*****r