Men staring at nipples!!!

I am sick of this. I do not dress to attract attention in any way. There I am walking along and my parker blows open and its a bit windy and yes theyve reacted. SO WHAT. Some slimy older man with too many children in his car and a miserable looking wife is turning his head eyes locked on my chest. Im not a whole person, Im a set of nipples. SURELY he has seen enough of them in his years. Is he sick of the fake tits in the porn he secretly watches as wifey is peeling the potatoes? Why do I sound so scathing? because its pathetic and creepy. Im in jeans, tshirt and chunky boots and a coat.Must I wear multiple layers all the time. GROW UP men. They are just breasts. Were not into you, were not reacting to you. Go get hypnotism or castrated coz I feel sick with your dirty greedy looks. Its a peeve of mine. It totally puts me off men as it shows some kind of immaturity or lack of control. Ladies... your thoughts?

It seems to be a part of the male makeup. They seem to just be wired that way. Can't explain it, don't like it but it is what it is there chemical makeup. Some are less obvious that others but I think they all notice. Pretty sick huh?

Had a breast reduction surgery, back in '97. I haven't viewed men, quite the same, since. Well, not all men, but what happened after the surgery was mind-numbing! Looked in the eyes, not the breasts! It was radical, to say the least about realizing, all those years leading up to the surgery, I wasn't being looked in the eyes! Sick, huh?

I'm afraid I haven't had that problem. Men don't look at me. Not even my breasts. I am just THAT ugly. But when I was younger they used to look, but it didn't bother me that much. What bothered me (like it bothers you) is the dirty old man with his children and wife that break their neck to take a peek. If a guy is single and looking, hey its in their makeup to find a mate. But if you're already in a relationship, have some self control!

I had a friend in an office I used to work in years ago. It infuriated her to no end that one of the male managers would only look at her breasts when talking to her. I suggested the next time it happened for her to lean down and reply to his crotch.

It worked ... !!! ... The embarrassed SOB looked his female co-workers in the eyes when addressing them from that moment forward.

Not trying to be rude but get over it. Like it's some shocker that men are obsessed with boobies and titties. That's probably the only thing some men ever think about. Because they are guys. It's what they do. They'd like to touch them, but all they can do is just look. Or as Jeff Dunham put it, "they're just gonna run to the end of their chain and bark."

They do make bras with extra coverage for the nipples, but really, it's something you just have to deal with and be proud that you have boobs that make men's heads turn.

Not all male attention is annoying to me. What you describe, a man with wife & kids in the car...yea.

I kinda feel sorry for everyone in that car actually.

The creepy ones are just that and to be dismissed as such. Not worth the outrage really. IMO.

After a while, it can become a powerful thing, to know they are looking but walk with an air of confidence by them....only to acknowledge the ones who aren't creepy and rude, if one so chooses to acknowledge the attention,at all...

*hugs* men like that are assholes.

Double hugs to you Platinum for saying n thinkin that about yourself. EVERYONE is beautiful, that song wasnt a lie. The media is. Besides we can think some dreadful stuff when we are in a sensitive state of mind.

You are spot on about the olderspoken for man v young unattached. It is worse.

LOL! I dont think I could tbh but fab she did. Men (many) r mental!

Im not proud of them nor display them nor are they huge. They are decent in size but it was the nipples that did it, that must to a mans vision look like flashing lights. Im going to buy covers for them. Eejits they are.

I have quite large breasts, with nipples to boast, and they do get looked at ... I wear a padded bra for the nipple thing though. It's just a fact of life, men will stare at nipples and breasts....no use in getting angry at it IMO and even though it can freak me out, I still don't get angry. Maybe I should who knows. Maybe I secretly love the attention Just being honest....

I feel similarly...although I erroneously think that I'm "pretty". That's what I've been told. But no one looks at me like that. Even though I wouldn't want the creepy married man looking at me like that, it would be nice if someone would recognize me as worth something sexually.

I have decently sized breasts and no one looks at them. While I appreciate that everyone looks me in the eyes while talking to me, it would be nice to be allowed to have a sexuality. It's like they all see me as a child or something.

I can respect the ladies' opinions who feel that it's no big deal or even that it's flattering for men to leer at them. We are all different and have had different experiences in life that will make us have different reactions/emotions/and feelings to the same experience. So, while my reaction to this behavior is different than "boys will be boys", I can understand how other see it's no big deal. For me personally, when I am being leered at it pisses me off as I feel like I was not put on this earth so this perv can leer at me. I do not exist so this filthy old pig can stare at me and imagine doing nasty things to me. Look at something else, you pig, cause I don't exist for your viewing pleasure. I think we all have different experiences and personalities that shape the way we react to these situations. But yeah, the man with the wife and kids staring makes me sick.

I am the End..When a man is leering at a ladies chest its not flattering at all. He isnt looking at yours or mines, hes looking at the objects themselves as though they were floating in air. Hes not looking at whos attached them (in the exact circumstances I stated in 1st post- the older man bored of his children chattering in the car)

When a man looks at you from head to toe, quickly or goes back to your face, thats the better/flattering version. Hes looking at the whole package and hes looking for/at a person as a whole.

There are men who pick women by their breast size alone, seriously, would you want to be with a man so .......... (fill it in yaself)

If you are a woman you are a woman. A real man can see the feminine no matter what. Its not about boobies, short dress, blahblah. Cod, Im glad I dont put myself on display- every man including the creepy ones would think I was saying hey look at me, please!! Re your thinking no one looks...Im sure someone is noticing, you just arent noticing them.

I think the problem for me is that the men who are appealling tend to politely glance. The ones that stare and leer are the creepy ones that no one wants. I'd prefer those men fall off the face of the earth.I do not want them thinking about touching me in any way. Ick.

Noticing someone is one thing... oogaling like the woman is merely an object is another. It's disrespectful, and contrary apparantly to what some of the men who oogle think, it's not flattering or a turn on. Like the ones that shout at you about your body parts from their cars as they drive by you.... ya that is so not gonna pick up most women. I don't know what they are thinking. Obviously not considering how they are making the other person feel. It feels anything but good at least to me. Kinda dehumanizing experience. When they do it when I am with my children......

I don't care if a man notices me and keeps it respectful. But there is a line and we are supposedly a civilized society. You dont have to make someone uncomfortable just to get a look. I think the women here understand the difference, I mean you can literally feel it.

This has been happening more and more often while I am with my daughter. She is 13!!!! And a tiny 13 year old at that. She dresses very modestly and looks about 11 or 12.

And that is a whole other topic. I am so not into slut shaming women for what they wear. You know I wear short skirts and stuff sometimes. And it is NEVER for extra attention. More often it is because I like it, it feels good on me, or its too damn hot outside. Or perhaps I am on a date with my bf.... shocker!!!I still keep it clean, I am pretty modest. It's not invitation to act like a perv. Period. Sure maybe some women do want attention..who knows. Something tells me behaviour says more than clothes to point to what one is seeking. . And that would be their choice and none of my business. Do men have to worry about this and how they dress.

Maybe men do not realize this because a lot of them would probably love to have women oogling them. There is a big physical power difference, men while being the physically "stronger" might realize to use that to offer the females a sense of protection instead of a sense of aggression. My bf doesn't mind when men notice me if it's respectful, he feels flattered, but he is very uncomfortable with the creepy leering types and gets a bit angry with that...seems even some men can see and feel the difference.

I am using some generalities I know. Seems some men did not like this thread here and had to get their say..too bad. I cant see the problem with respecting females feelings in this area. It's not a big thing to ask. When should we care about how the other feels about how we treat them.

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When 40 year old men leer at my 13 year old daughter for 2 min straight that is when I will worry. Women are not talking about a 2 second glance here as far as I can tell.....

At least one positive thing, it's a quick heads up about what men I don't want to interact with and would rather avoid. Women are also visual creatures, a huge portion of women do not leer tho. Don't have a clue where the myth that only men are visual came from, but it's always a popular argument used.

I also didnt think it was ok to use the mens forum to cross the boundaries of these forums, bypassing the rules.

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What I find creepy is when men stare a girls who are underage. Then they throw the "She looks 25" argument just because she might have a little cleavage or makeup on but to me she still looks like a little kid. I don't know. Maybe I can tell the difference between a 15 year old and a 25 year old better than they can, but I always catch guys ogling girls who are high school age and it's creepy. If I ever have a daughter, I'll probably end up in jail if anything happened to her because someone thought she was older.