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Default Aug 03, 2014 at 07:09 PM
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I got married and pregnant because I felt it was the right time. I totally married the wrong person because it was the right time (for me to get married). I got pregnant, cuz I thought that's what you do when you get married. I applaud you for putting more thought into it. If you don't REALLY really want a child, now, don't do it to avoid being alone later. I fulfilled my responsibility as a parent, but the art/joy of parenting was lost to me. Make sure that you're ready and that you really REALLY want a child.
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Default Sep 19, 2014 at 08:34 AM
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I am 20 years younger than my partner and the talk of children has been had. We both went to art school and he is nearing the point of retiring "young" so we can work together creatively on a bigger scale. The only thing is he is maybe terrified -not sure if its the best word but something close -of having a child. Me being the younger one, my womanly clock isn't going off too bad yet, but my parents are, being of latin descent. My only thoughts are if I will fall into having regrets choosing a partner that is much older. So many if's. Everyone tells me how amazing it is, but I can't help going back and forth on the subject.
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Default Sep 19, 2014 at 01:24 PM
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My kids and grandkids have been the greatest joys of my life. But parenthood is not for everyone. As someone said, even if you have children there is no guarantee they will be the child of your fantasies, or take care of you later in life. I can't imagine not having them, but I also fully support anyone's decision to not have them. In fact, I have to admire those who do make a choice rather than just taking whatever happens. You might regret the choice one day, but that's life. A lot of people regret the children they did have.

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