Husband Low Sex Drive

AliceinWonderland7 · Jul 25, 2014 at 06:30 AM

I'll sum things up. He says he wants to but he doesn't have the urges. We've been through the little pills to help him along but he doesn't like them. He's a good husband and loves me very much. I love him too. He's sweet, kind and is very understanding of my mental issues.

But I miss being desired. I miss having my clothes ripped off and having someone whisper dirty talk to get me wild. I don't even care about having a lot of sex. Just some...at least once in a while. But I think what I miss even more than sex is passion. Sexual passion. I'm sick of always being the one who has to be creative to get something started I miss being wanted.

Travelinglady · Jul 25, 2014 at 06:46 PM

Now how old is he? How long have you been married?

SeekerOfLife · Jul 26, 2014 at 03:45 AM

I went through the same thing with my ex-husband. All to no avail. He had almost no sex drive. Many nights I cried myself to sleep.
I would suggest he have his hormone levels checked.
I wish I could encourage you more. But I do know how you feel.

Rhapsody · Sep 20, 2014 at 02:21 PM

I know how you are feeling, I my self am going through the same issue and have been for the last for years. My husband and I have at best had sex two times this year even though I have tried several different times to peak his interest to no avail, so I just stop trying, as its no fun for me if he is not into it.

I personally could work with the no sex issue IF my husband was a snuggler or gave hugs and kisses at other times, but sadly he does not give me much attention any more (31 yrs together) and sex was all we had left --this was the time when he opened up and gave of him self and hid nothing from me...... but now even that is gone.

(((hugs)))

JLarissaDragon · Sep 20, 2014 at 02:45 PM

My drive is higher than my husband's, but I usually can get him to engage in sex with the appropriate measures, such as parading around in front of him without clothes or greeting him when he gets home after me in a sexy nightie.
I am not sure that there is anything that works all of the time for everybody, but it is important to take the initiative. When I look at intercourse for what I can give I usually get a lot more too

Rhapsody · Sep 20, 2014 at 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by JLarissaDragon

My drive is higher than my husband's, but I usually can get him to engage in sex with the appropriate measures, such as parading around in front of him without clothes or greeting him when he gets home after me in a sexy nightie.

I am not sure that there is anything that works all of the time for everybody, but it is important to take the initiative. When I look at intercourse for what I can give I usually get a lot more too

While I appreciate the reply and want to let you know that what you have wrote will work on most red blooded guys. I just have to state there is a big difference between getting a normal sexed man in the mood that is just tired and needs some motivations (than) trying to have sex with a man that has low sex drive --this is like trying to drive a truck with no gas in its tank...... you better start pushing because its hard as its up hill.

(((hugs)))

Eliza Jane · Sep 21, 2014 at 10:39 PM

I have a similar situation. We've only been married 2.5 yrs and if we ever have sex it is because I ask/beg. I'm at the point that I only ask when I'm ovulating (trying to get pregnant) because his lack of interest when I suggest it really hurts. I generally feel like an unattractive person and having my husband try to seduce me or seem turned on by me would help a lot. Sometimes he even takes Ambien before sex. This makes his performance pretty awful, but it especially bothers me that he feels like he wants to be drugged out while we are intimate.

I feel your pain.

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Travelinglady Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Sep 2010 Location: North Carolina Posts: 49,204 (SuperPoster!) 14 23.3k hugs given	Jul 25, 2014 at 06:46 PM #2 Now how old is he? How long have you been married?
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SeekerOfLife Legendary Member Since Jul 2013 Location: Foothills, where I belong Posts: 14,593 (SuperPoster!) 11 4,064 hugs given	Jul 26, 2014 at 03:45 AM #3 I went through the same thing with my ex-husband. All to no avail. He had almost no sex drive. Many nights I cried myself to sleep. I would suggest he have his hormone levels checked. I wish I could encourage you more. But I do know how you feel.
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