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i would like to apologize to our gentlemen in the men's forum for the inappropriate posting by a woman in their forum.......i found it disrespectful.....

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I would like to say that I find it to be condescending and inappropriate that you should see fit to apologise on behalf of woman kind for what you judge to be my 'inappropriate' and 'disrespectful' action.

Firstly because I made it clear I was posting on the men's forum because part of me has male gender identity.

Secondly because to call my action 'inappropriate' is dismissive, and invalidating of how I experience my gender. It is also assuming that I have malevolent (disrespectful) intent instead of giving me the benefit of the doubt (which is customary).

Thirdly because I am not you or your dependent child for it to be your place to apologise for my actions.

Please refrain from judging me and apologising on my behalf.

Thanks.

i would not have posted the apology if i thought you were not being disrespectful but you were......and using the part of you that has male gender identity to try to make it ok is absurd......

[LMo]

Butterflylady, I don't think that's fair. It's not our place to judge. Alexandra gave her reason, and while it probably wasn't the most effective way of achieving the result she was hoping for, she does have a point and I respect that.

We need to give members the benefit of the doubt. Please keep replies supportive in this thread.

fair or not it was the truth.......

[LMo]

let's take this offline, ok?

[DocJohn]

And with that, and with this discussion over in terms of the question being settled (and a new sexuality and gender identity forum created), I'm going to close this thread. Thank you for all of your feedback and input, everyone!

DocJohn