[where.ever.you.are.]

Im in my early 20's and I am a female. When I was in high school, I always had crushes on women who were old enough to be my mother. Coaches, teachers, ect.. I had crushes on girls my age also though. But as i've gotten older, I find myself ONLY attracted to older women. Like 15-20 years older... And who are a little over weight. Not like obese but just, you know, thicker than me. Im attracted to someones personality more so than the way they look. But age is a deal breaker for me. If they're my age, im just not interested. I don't feel satisfied and I dont feel "understood". What the hell? Lot's of people think this is odd...lol. I dont know.

Im not looking for anyone to tell me if it's "right or wrong" to date someone with such a significant age gap. I just want to understand myself and why I feel this way. I guess I feel protected or safe dating someone older. Like emotionally protected. I like to have somebody I can lean on who understands and feels my pain. Does anyone here have some time for a small counselling session? What are your thought's? Does this sound like "mother issues"? Am I internally seeking a mother figure?

[gayleggg]

It could be that you are looking for a mother figure. Looking for someone that you feel may have more experience and knowledge. Someone that can guide you. As you said, someone you can lean on.

I think some people have different maturity levels and are therefore drawn to older and more mature individuals. I dated a much younger guy once and it was like he had an old soul. He didn't fit in with others in his age group. So it could be like that with you. As long as you are happy with it age doesn't matter.

[chancy512]

I could of written this exact email. I am a married Mom and I remember feelings similar to yours growing but more importantly I tend to have the "same" feelings pop up from time to time even now in my adult life.
I have found larger women more comforting as well. I have never been able to figure any of my feeling out since I had a normal childhood with a mom who was always there for me and still is. I have never acted out on my feelings and probably will never have the chance. I guess I should just embrace it.
Just wanted to let you know you are not alone.