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JLG13 · Nov 12, 2014 at 08:10 PM

Going to the therapist tomorrow. I've been trying to talk myself out of it. I just feel like it's pointless. How does talking to another person about things that bother you make you better? It doesn't. Nothing about this appointment is going to make my life better. So stupid. Nothing is going to get better. Having hope just leaves room for disappointment. I'm over it. Pregnancy is supposed to be a joyous and exciting time. I don't feel anything but worry and sadness. I really feel like I can't do any of this.

kaliope · Nov 12, 2014 at 09:06 PM

from what I remember of your other posts, I believe you are feeling this way because you had to get off your meds and you destabilized. when I am feeling so unhappy like this, I remember that it is a chemical imbalance and not really what is going on in life so I refuse to let it take hold and rob me of my life. I know it isn't real. talking does help. when miserable, try anything to make it better.

hamster-bamster · Nov 15, 2014 at 03:19 AM

Talking about what bothers you with a GOOD therapist does work wonders, so this appointment does have the potential of making you feel better. But, only if the therapist is good and if you click with the therapist.

Make the tables turn - think of this appointment as an interview that you would be conducting to see if this therapist is a good fit for you. Ask for the therapist's take on your problems, for the therapist's experience in helping women in similar situations, ask for the general treatment approach of this therapist, etc.

You know, be in the driver's seat, however corny it might sound.

JLarissaDragon · Nov 15, 2014 at 01:59 PM

I agree with Hamster.
Furthermore pregnancy is a time when our hormonal state is undergoing substantial changes. Talking with a therapist can be far more helpful than we may realize at first. Furthermore if the first one is not a good fit, please do not give up. I am sure that there is someone out there who can give you the help and support you need. You deserve it

hugs

hamster-bamster · Nov 15, 2014 at 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by JLarissaDragon

Talking with a therapist can be far more helpful than we may realize at first. Furthermore if the first one is not a good fit, please do not give up. I am sure that there is someone out there who can give you the help and support you need. You deserve it

hugs

JLG13 -on one of your threads I posted a list of lactation consultants in your area.

Those women most likely are well connected with the community of professionals who help pregnant women and new mothers. Rather than randomly calling people off PsychologyToday.com, I would interview the lactation consultants over the phone and just telling them what you have told us, in a briefer form. everything you have told us so far is relevant and you painted a pretty complete picture of despair and the feeling of lost bearings. Tell the lactation consultants that you went off some meds and now are on Zoloft and want to talk to a therapist who has experience with serving women pregnant with twins and taking Zoloft. Ask them to call around for you. This may be the fastest route to getting a good therapist.

Other resources: pediatricians (TravelingLady recommended that you get one in advance), doulas, OB-GYNs.

macpherson1958 · Nov 17, 2014 at 10:57 AM

Just letting your words out and out of your head has work wonders for me.

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