May we talk about Birth Control? Is BCP 99% effective? My BCP & breakthrough bleeding

Hello, sorry if anything in this post is TMI,
Sexually I only have one guy that is my husband, so excuse me for my ignorance in sex. I’m newlywed so I’m still new into this whole BCP thing. I'm only 3 months into marriage.

May I ask. Is anyone here who are on BCP or are expert on Birth control pills. I have a few questions. What are the chances of get pregnant while on BCP? Not likely right? Because BCP is 99% effective if taking correctly right? And did anyone get breakthrough bleeding like I get?

I guess I want to talk about BCP and the possible of pregnancy while on the pills. Anyone who know alot about BCP, please share your experience.
And if anyone here who have alot of experience in birth control. Beside BCP, are there any other birth control out there is more effective? Like most effective birth control with least side effects. Please let me know, thank you.
I heard about the rod arm implant thing, it is better than BCP? Does it have any side effects like the BCP did?

I took all my pills on time, exactly on the same time everyday. I never miss one pills, so I know I’m 99% safe. I am also NOT on any Antibiotics so it not messing up my BCP
Last month I got my period came late. And 'breakthrough bleeding', heard this is normal for those who new to BCP as their body still adjust to the BCP

And this month, it is the 20th of April and I still have not get my period yet. That means I am 3 WEEKS late. I am way passed my placebo pills. Now this is kindda scary because I never been this late before in my life. Despite being 3 weeks late, I still take my pills on time everyday.

I’m 30 and husband is 29, and we married. My husband really want a baby, he have baby fever. We both agree on to TTC in 2016
If unplanned pregnancy happen before 2016, we will keep baby at all cost. We both against abortion, we both love babies. But at my age 30, I’m not young anymore. People tell me that the older you are the harder to get pregnant.

I told my husband that I can’t be pregnant because I took the BCP everyday exactly on time. When you taking BCP correctly, you not ovulating an egg, so the chances of get pregnant is none. And we only 3rd month into our marriage so my body still trying to adjust to the BCP; it probably just late again.

My husband want a baby so he happy that I’m late, lol
He be THRILLED if I’m pregnant. When he left to work, he kiss my stomach. He told me take the pregnancy test and when I’m pregnant, he will kiss my stomach EVERYDAY for 9 Months until the baby born.

He making me feel kindda awkward. Kissing my stomach for 9 Months everyday until the baby born, will probably just suffocate his wife and the baby with effections.
We 3 months into marriage and I'm still trying to get used to my husband kiss my butt cheek.
I have an abusive mother in my childhood, and I grow up in a very cold family so I'm not used to affections at all.

I can already tell that he going to be the Dad that will spoil his kids rotten!!
I was raise in a strict traditional Chinese family, so I know I will be very strict to my kids. And him, he the Dad that will spoil his kids. The kids will always run to daddy daddy for everything because daddy spoil them rotten. Arg!!
Before we TTC, I think we need another talk on this. We have the talk before, he said it himself that he will spoil his children.

I know he patience and he is a doting husband. He let me have things my way so I can be happy. But now to the kids issue, I don’t think he going to let me have it all my way. We probably have cultural clashes on the ways we going to raise our children.

We been through alot of hardship to be together. From my abusive Chinese mother disapproval of him because of his skin color, to our huge cultural difference.
I do want a baby, but not now. I want more of ‘us’ two people time alone together as a couple before we have a baby. I hope I'm not being too selfish. Am I too selfish?

He been working 2 jobs, 12-14 hours everyday so we can have enough money to buy a house as fast as we can. We plan to TTC in 2016 when we have our own house. I want to spend more time with him as two of us before bring in a baby. Is that too SELFISH of me?

Sorry for my bad English grammars, English is my third language.

You need to see your health care provider to discuss your concerns. The BCP is extremely effective, nothing is 100%, I would do a home pregnancy test as you are late and worried. You can keep the result to yourself if + till you talk to a professional about your concerns.
He sounds like a good guy, I hope he can understand your discomfort/comfort with some things and respect that....let him know you feel a bit suffocated, need a little distance, and that it doesn't mean you care less, it is just what you need. You are NOT alone in needing more space, many people do. It is hard for someone who "hovers" to see that they are doing something that can, in time, make things difficult...
Best of luck!!!

It easy to talk to a doctor regarding to Birth Control pills. But what I want to know here is other womens hare their experience in which Birth Control is more effective to them.
It my first time taking BCP, so I have alot alot to learn from other women out there.

It always best to hear experience directly from those that went through taking different birth control, they would know which one is more effective based on their experience.

I guess I want to talk about BCP and the possible of pregnancy while on the pills. Anyone who know alot about BCP, please share your experience.
And if anyone here who have alot of experience in birth control. Beside BCP, are there any other birth control out there is more effective? Like most effective birth control with least side effects. Please let me know, thank you.
I heard about the rod arm implant thing, it is better than BCP? Does it have any side effects like the BCP did?

I am considering starting birth control pills this summer so I'm following this thread. Hearing others' experiences would be helpful.

All I know is the less you have to do with the birth control, the less user error there may be, the more effective it is. So an IUD is going to be the most effective, followed by a vaginal ring (which you only change once a month instead of a birth control pill which you risk user error once a day), then birth control pills. And on top of that, use other forms of birth control as well. I use a vaginal ring and condoms every time. I don't know if that's really enough or if I need to add spermacide or something else too...

Oral birth control pills are greater than 99% effective IF taken correctly, i.e. at the same time every day, never missing a day, the most recent quote I read was 99.4% of I remember correctly. With "actual" use, it goes down to about 92%. It is possible to get breakthrough bleeding, especially the first couple months on the pill, not as common as with other methods, but it does happen.

An IUD or hormonal implants are the most effective birth control methods out there, obviously besides abstinence. They cut down on the user error effect and therefore there effectiveness rate is over 99%. The "rod implant" thing is the hormonal implant and it has similar side effects to birth control pills because they both release hormones which prevent pregnancy, so you get side effects from that.

It's not impossible for you to be pregnant, especially if you're that late. Was your period really light last month, more like spotting for a couple days? If so, it could be implantation spotting and not a period at all. Have you been stressed out at all? Any weight changes? Excessive exercise? Dieting? Med changes? Any of these could cause you to miss your period. However 30 is not old and you don't really start to have a harder time getting pregnant until about age 35. You need to take a pregnancy test. Like now. Like today ASAP. If it's negative, it's been long enough that you can pretty much count on the fact that you're not pregnant, but if you continue not to get your period, you need to get things checked out by your doctor.

FYI, I don't think you're being selfish by wanting some "us" time before you bring a child into the picture. I think that's a mature, practical insight into yourself.

Good luck. I hope it turns out what you want it to be. Let us know what happens. Feel free to PM me if you have any more questions.

I took oral birth control pills for 10 years. I would have some spotting now and then. Some other friends of mine who were also on the pill would not get their periods during a few months, and they were never pregnant. In any case you should take a pregnancy test, but it could be your body reacting to the hormones of the pills. I think it is different on every woman, like I never had any side effects while on the pill and my period was never late. Some close friends of mine would have some side effects and would not have their periods for some months . Just some additional info: I stopped taking the pill because I'm a smoker and the combination of both increase the risk of having a cardiovascular problem, specially when you are in your 30's, which is my case.

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I've been on bcp for months and always get breakthrough bleeding the second week on pills and then rarely a period on off week. It's strange. Psych meds such as lamictal can affect bcp pills and their effectiveness

Ok...they've all been effective for their purpose. I've been on the ortho family of bcps, started in winter 1992. I did stop before my first child, remained off of them, for seven years or so. They help in regulation of monthly cycles, help skin and for me they are also a preventive medicine for another high risk factor of mine. Currently on apri. My body and the ortho wound up with irregularities.

I used to take the pill and I hated it. I found that it actually lowered my libido drastically and it was always hard for me to remember to take them on time. I even set an alarm on my phone to remind me but it was just too hard for me.
I decided I'm going to get the Paragard. It's a copper IUD, non-hormonal, you can keep it in for up to 10 years, and you don't have to remember to do something everyday. I should be hopefully getting it within the next few weeks and I will let you ladies know how the insertion went and try to keep you updated on it if anyone's interested.