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Legendary
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#41
I always just knew I would have kids. I never would have thought it was an option not to get married and have kids. I remember my best friend started saying in high school that she never wanted to have kids, and I thought she was just in a phase (although I didn't say that to her). She never did have kids. I couldn't even relate to feeling that way. I just felt like it was part of the circle of life, that I am supposed to reproduce.
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#42
To be honest, I've never had this burning desire to have kids, but I think it would be a good idea for both you and your BF to ask yourselves this: what is it about kids that I want, or think I want? Wanting kids in the abstract is very different from being fully aware of all of the challenges that raising them entails and wanting to have them anyway. And, is he thinking of the impact to a child to have older parents? Is he going to want to chase around someone in their terrible twos when he is 52? He's going to be a senior citizen when they graduate high school. It's an irrevocable decision, moreso than marriage. Think it through carefully.
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I'm not trying to sway the OP one way or the other, especially since she hasn't responded since October. I just wanted to point out there are positives and negatives to having kids later in life. This is definitely a decision that should be thought through seriously and carefully. |
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#44
A lot of people are waiting until they are older to have children these days. And with advances in medical technology, you're still going to be okay even if you decide to wait until your 40s to have kids.
Personally, I never really thought about having kids or cared much. I like kids, but I don't know how to really interact with them. I'm scared too, mainly because I feel like I wouldn't know what to do with them. I don't want to be that crappy, clueless parent that everyone talks about. |
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Remember you can always adopt if you become too old to have kids on your own. Don't rush into anything if you don't feel ready.
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