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#21
I like younger men, so I might very well be a cougar. Most of the guys I've been interested in were/are younger than I am.
I like clean shaven men, but a little scruffy stubble is also sexy. I like a guy who doesn't have much body hair, but not completely smooth like a baby's butt either. Maybe a bit on the chest, arms and legs (and neither regions of course) as to look like a man and not a boy. I go crazy for a guy who has sweet, puppy dog eyes. I love when a guy wraps their arms around you and holds you close, so you can feel their heart beating in their chest. It soothes me somehow. I don't like a guy who's absolutely ripped, but I don't like a bean pole either. They have to be somewhat built, at least. Oh, and the way a guy smells. A mixture of cologne and aftershave and sweat. IRRISISTABLE!!!! __________________ MY BLOG IS NOW CONVENIENTLY LOCATED HERE!! [UPDATED: 4/30/2017] LIFE IS TOO SHORT, TOO VALUABLE AND TOO PRECIOUS A THING TO WASTE!! |
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I also love a man who can make me laugh and who makes me feel special. A gentle caress of my cheek as he leaves the room, who strokes' my back gently when he thinks I am asleep and understands when a distressed friend rings you in the middle of the night. Looks are not as important as personality
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A man NOTHING like my H was.
I like men with common sense, the ability to problem solve alone & with a partners. One who knows how to do things without having their hand held (dislike helpless men) One who is strong enough to open the jar lids that I can't budge. One who can be the provider if necessary but also willing to work as a team in providing. I like a man who cares about keeping in shape & not just letting themselves go as they get older but also not vain about it. Specific looks can't really pin point because what attracts me would be their whole way about them not any specific attribute. Definitely REAL self-confidence not faking it with bragging about themselves. Actions speak louder than words. __________________ Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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Good post! Yes, take care of yourselves too, guys!! They want a supermodel, but some men are walking around with a beer gut. So unattractive. Yes, confident men who aren't VAIN. I mean be self-assured without coming across as vain. It seems to me that men that are vain are trying to cover up the fact they lack confidence. I like them to be comfortable in their own skin too. __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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I like men who don't treat me differently just because I'm female. I like it when I'm treated like a human being who's strengths and weaknesses aren't automatically determined by gender.
I also like men who are nurturing, kind, and non-aggressive (unless absolutely necessary for self defense etc.). I do like strength and protectiveness if it makes me feel safe and not patronized. I guess I prefer the more passive/follower type because I'm an alpha/leader type and I clash with other alphas. I like all of the above in my boyfriend. But I also like his beard, how he simply holds me when I'm upset, how he accepts me and actually likes me for not falling directly in the traditional female gender role or even considering myself truly 100% female, his patience, and his ability to listen and compromise. I also appreciate that he accepts me warts and all but still challenges me to improve and become a better version of myself. I'm not being forced to change or to change into anything I'm not, but it helps to create positive change in your life if someone will still accept you if you initially fail. |
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I agree completely with your observation of men being more straightforward than women. After living in a dorm of roughly 50 people, split pretty evenly between men and women, I can state confidently that the men were a lot easier to understand. |
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I'm older now, but most of my life hung out with guys as friends, coworkers, and they were much easier to be with. As a young girl, I enjoyed the activity of boys over girls.
Playing baseball was more interesting than dolls and dress up. I have always been overwhelmed by the intensity of my own womanhood and confused by it at best. I enjoy men who are kindhearted and have a sense of humor and nothing to prove. __________________ |
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As an adult, I've found men to be more reliable in some ways as friends. Right now I have no women friends at all but 3 male ones. __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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I love it when even though you're falling apart and he doesn't understand, if he loves you enough, he'll still be there. He'll listen to your misery, hold your hand, rub your back, and reassure that he's there for you. This is a blessing.
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One of my favorites too! __________________ DXD BP1, BPD & OCPD "The best way to make it through with hearts and wrists in tact, is to realise, two out of three aint bad" FOB... |
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I remember this. I haven't been lucky enough to have this in years but I'll never forget that feeling. It's just as comforting for them to just listen and hug you; it's not always necessary for them to try to say the "right thing".
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Ah something I never experienced in 33 years of marriage. He had no idea HOW to emotionally connect. Can't say that if you never had it you don't miss it (even growing up with parents) because it would have been a nice feeling. One realizes as time passes what the more normal things are that end up missing when surrounded by dysfunctional people who have no idea they are dysfunctional & living around dysfunction & finally breaking away from it opens a whole NEW world of possibilities.
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What I DON'T like is wimpy men. "Grow a pair" or "Man up" as they say in the movies. By this I mean I hate it when men don't have a backbone.
I know a guy who complains to me about this other guy he hangs out with, saying he really didn't want to go to the auto show or whatnot, or he didn't want to take the bus but preferred walking. I thought, "Then why didn't you SAY something? Can't you just SAY NO?" Or, about the gathering with relatives when they did what they wanted to do while he visited, not what he wanted. I asked, "Did you say what YOU wanted to do?" "No." He could have just said, "I don't want to go see that movie. I want to see ______" or if he doesn't want to go to a movie at all, SAY SO. "I didn't really want to go but...." I hear this all the time. Makes me want to bang my head against the wall. This drives me nuts. __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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#35
I am kind of a whimp at times.
maybe I am just trying to go with the flow. I would rather be with a friend then complain. I am pretty open minded when it comes to my friends. now with hubby, I am free to say yea or nay. bizi |
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#36
I've always been attracted to height (I'm a bit vertically challenged) but really like the 6' range. Weight really doesn't make or break attraction for me, but not to sound shallow, but I do also have limitations to an extent.
But MOST of all, true love and not being afraid to show it is the most attractive quality to me. Having compassion and able to discuss issues tactfully. I'm very lucky to say the least, my bf meets all these "qualifications" for lack of better words. __________________ |
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Looks, smile, laugh, humor, kindness, eyes, chemistry, penis.
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They have a penis! xD
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I like male arms. I think this lies in how subconsciously they represent how they make you feel safe when they hold you and represent their strength and support.
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