Feeling safe after bad news?

How do you make yourself feel safe after hearing bad news in your area?



I just don't know how to handle the emotions that it triggers or make myself feel safe again. I talk about it with my husband, but I feel like this is a woman's fear that men will never really understand. I know men can be victims of assault, too, but I just think it's different.

I think it's natural to feel this way.

I feel like this often too, especially if I am out on my own. Sometimes, I tend to avoid reading or watching the news because of all the bad things I would see (However, I know it's also good to be aware of what's going on, especially in local areas).

We have to accept that we live in a beautiful world filled with some bad people. Always take safety precautions, avoid certain areas and prevent certain situations (such as walking alone at night in isolated places, unknown drinks, etc) and I think the best thing to do is just try to be alert and aware of your surroundings.

Honestly, even where I live out in the country alone, I feel that knowing how to use a gun to defend myself is important & having a concealed Cary permit would be a must if I lived in an unsafe area though I would take precautions of going into places alone & not just go there because I would not want to have to use my gun...but want to have it if it becomes necessary. If its between me or them....they will be the one regretting messing with me.

Thanks for responding, Eskie. I was actually thinking about this post earlier today and how only one person has responded so far. My line of thinking kind of went, "I don't think they're ignoring me, I'm sure this is something a lot of women think about, but maybe no one really has a solution because there really isn't one." And basically, there isn't. You just have to be aware of your surroundings and then be as safe as possible.

When I was younger, I was in a Women in Technology program that gave us self-defense training every year. They'd teach us moves, and then have a guy dressed up in a padded suit try to grab us. It gave us a chance to actually practice on a person, so that if we did need it, we'd be more comfortable doing it. I still remember a lot of it, but I've been thinking about taking another class to brush up.

I respect and understand your decision to carry a gun, but personally, it's not something I would do. I have been considering pepper spray, but even then, there's a little voice in my head that just keeps saying, "Is that really necessary? Isn't that being a little overprotective?" But then, I thought the same thing when I asked a friend to walk me to my car after we got out of a movie downtown. I later found out, at around the same time a few blocks away from where I parked, there was a possible sexual assault happening... The police aren't sure if it actually happened (they did investigate it and treat it like it did happen, so it wasn't police being dismissive), but they're thinking the girl might of had a flashback to a previous trauma. Even so, that is scary in its own right.

It's just starting to seem like there aren't any safe places left.

Anyways, thanks again for responding.

My daughter lives about 2 blocks away from where that shooting in the movie theater was in Colorado a few years ago. She told me she still doesn't want to go to the movies & she wasn't there that night. It's always better to be safe than sorry.

When your gut feel says to be cautious ALWAYS listen

Be confident and try to motivate ourself in any situation.