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Member Since Mar 2015
Location: wyoming
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I just need some advice... how would another female deal with a boyfriend who gets pissed off because you disagree about there opinions?
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Unless he was willing to go to couples therapy and to work on being more open to your opinions, the ole "we agree to disagree" goes a long way.
But if he isn't going to make changes then ending the relationship sooner rather than later would be my advice. __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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would consider dumping him. He would be hell to ever live with
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Member Since Jun 2016
Location: Australia
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Some people can't leave something alone until you agree with them. I don't get along with people like that.
There's a quote that goes something like: a sign of an intelligent mind is that it can entertain a thought without accepting it. I'm not sure why your boyfriend is like that. Is he insecure, emotionally immature, close minded? I wouldn't be able to live with it, myself. Tolerance is important to me, and respect for others' opinions. Hugs __________________ "I am no longer afraid, for I am learning to sail my ship" - Louisa may Alcott |
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Member Since Nov 2015
Location: USA
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The ability to accept another's opinions and beliefs without having to agree with them or approve of them is important - critical in a relationship. Personally, I would explain that you need him to be able to accept that you will not always agree with his every thought. Sometimes you will, sometimes you won't. It's the nature of relationships.
If he can't accept that you will have your own unique opinions which may or may not match his, then he has a serious personal problem, which may be too much for you to overlook. My husband and I make disagreement a veritable artform. Lol. We do it all the time and when we disagree on something, we hear the other out, logically argue why we disagree and often find a happy medium. Occasionally we feel so strongly one way or another that we have to take a breather on a topic or just let something go altogether. But all that takes practice, tolerance, and open-mindedness from both parties. If one is too stubborn, the whole relationship can come to a screeching halt over a silly disagreement. Then no one's happy, so what's the point of the relationship? If he can't be tolerant of dissension or alternately listen to your concerns about his close-mindedness at this stage of your relationship, consider how your future will look. Is it worth the long term? |
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