miscarriages

ok i know i could have posted this under another topic but i feel dont really know the pain that goes along with miscarriages. well i was only 10 weeks before but i didnt miscarry on my own i actually went to the docs office to hear the heart beat and there wasnt any. that was devastating i keep getting flashbacks of the docs office its aweful I know miscarriages are are common but i dont understand. My sister is pregnant for the second time and both are oopses i mean God bless her for being healthy and having healthy children but im a little jealous. My sis is about 6 mos preg. and i was excited that we were goin to have kids 3 mos a part because we are very close and always wanted to have kids close in age so i am having a really hard time with this mentally and i am putting a lot on my boyfriend and making him feel helpless i feel bad but its almost like i cant help myself. I took the depression test and scored a 55 severe depression well that about sums it up, Right now im in a lot of pain physically and mentally and i dont know what to do with myself well i just wanted to get this off my chest thanks for reading

I can only say "I am so sorry"... how devastating to find out in the manner that you did...and as happy as you are for your sister that also must be difficult.....you are in my thoughts...

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I too know the pain that lies behind having a miscarriages both as the mother to be and the grandparent waiting for her first grand baby that was not meant to be (well, not at that time in life).

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I am so sorry for your loss. The only comfort I can offer is I've had 5 miscarriages and still have 2 beautiful children. I hope you stay well and safe.

Take gentle care,
Dee

thanks everyone for your kind words and hugs

Hello and welcome to Psych Central. I am sorry for your loss. Have you thought about getting professional help at this time for your deepression? I am sure there are many things you would like to talk about at this time to help you to try and understand what happened and why. It is okay to get professional help for loss and depression that accompanies loss. I hope you will think about seeing someone to help you feel less alone in your struggles at this time. Take care.. Soidhonia

I am so sorry for your loss! I know how you feel and that nothing anyone can say or do will make you feel better. I have had 4 miscarriages and 4 healthy children. The last one was 4 years ago and my husband and I were so excited because we thought those days were behind us and here we were, given another chance (he had a vasectomy that apparently did not work and we did not know for 10 years!). I was 22 weeks but the baby died shortly after my previous appointment, he was 19 weeks old. Eventually I found comfort in the fact that had he lived, his life would have been very short and painful. I was very irriated with my OB for doing the tests after they took him (I was getting toxic). What did I care,why didn't matter, I lost my baby. I now understand why it was so important to him that I know. I understand your frustration with your sisters, I think that's a natural reaction. When this happens you notice complete strangers pregnant and smoking or drinking and wondering what kind of a mother they are going to be and how unfair it is. Whatever child you eventually have either through birth or adoption will be the one you are supposed have and you will appreciate him/her all the more because of your loss.