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Me and my fiance ex fiance not sure what to call him have a very unhealthy relationship we fight all the time. Well about 4 months ago I met this guy an ex coworker of mine and we started developing a relationship that got a little personal. We had a chemistry but because I am engaged I guess not real sure anymore I put the thoughts in the back of my mind. Well last week things got really bad between me and again not sure where we stand at this point my fiance. Well like a dumb *** I told him about this coworker. Now it is constant fighting all day everyday as we live together and I have no family willing to take me in as I have a really bad temper and get violent when I get mad. My whatever he is keeps telling me he is lining up all these different dates with girls but he never goes out with any girls or at least not what I have seen. Me and this ex coworker had made plans in the past to hang out but he had to break them as he was supposed to go to Kentucky with his mom but she cancelled the trip last minute for whatever reason. I have not tried to make new plans with him because my whatever he is to me has taken my other phone which only works when connected to WIFI and reads my Facebook messages every day and has also made me delete several male friends who I have known 10+ years long before I knew him. He even locked my working phone out all day one day so I could only get calls couldn't make any. I love my fiance I will call him that for all intensive purposes but he is crazy. He followed an ex of his and he says he did it because "he was done with her and wanted to have conformation that he was making the right choice and to know if he needed to get an STD test or not. It makes no sense to me why would you follow someone you are done with? I am scared to even make plans with the ex coworker for fear he would follow me too. I am currently out of work so I have no money to get a place of my own or my own car so I am stuck it is either stay and fight with him every day or be homeless with no car, no job, and no money. I just posted this to get support from everyone I am losing my damn mind and because he has my other phone the normal people I would talk to about this including the ex coworker aren't a safe bet as he can see my Facebook messages to them. I have been tempted to create another facebook and block my fiance and his family so I can talk to my normal support system again until I can get free once and for all.
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Hi, broken. I agree that you have a very unhealthy relationship. Please try to figure out a way to get out of it.
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Will your parents allow you to go back home for a while? Have you considered going to school, you might qualify for student aid (if you can, you might be able to get into a school/dorm for the Fall)?
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I am in school but my school is in Arizona and I take online classes. My mom said I could not move in with her and my step dad. My bio dad when I was 8 and my adoptive dad is a raging drunk so no
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I know this is a long shot and just temporary but in the summer, the Grand Canyon resorts hire restaurant and hotel workers and the boarding fees are affordable (they expect the workers to live there during the season (around now until Labor Day weekend week)
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I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling really trapped, it's a difficult choice, but you need to do whatever you can to break yourself out of that, even if it means taking on loans and whatnot. Do you get any financial aid as a student? It's still possible to get student loans even if you're taking online classes. Each state and even your own school should have a list of resources that you can look at in order to take on loans as a student. I don't know what the policies are in Arizona, but hopefully you will be able to find something soon!
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