[lastresort]

O.K. TIME FOR A WIERD QUESTION...I HAVE A AWESOME BOYFRIEND...BOTH OF US NOT VIRGINS...BUT HE SAYS HE WANTS ME TO BE ON TOP...IF YOU GET MY PITCHURE. I 'VE NEVER BEEN ONTOP... HOW DOES ONE BE ON TOP!?

LOVE'
LASTRESORT

well.... being on top is fun... lots of fun

being on top... allows you to set the pace... how fast.. how slow.. how deep..

so... it sounds like your boyfriend if he is asking has some ideas.. and could help you a bit until you get used to it..
but basically you are on top of him and you do the movement.. depending on the differences in height.. you can lay down on him and kiss him... and he can put his hands.. near your waist and help...

so is fun....

You are in control which is always fun ! Its fun for the man as well as they like laying back and enjoying it once in a while, I find its a time for you to give and them to take its a really good feeling.........

i'm a little ambivalent about it... sometimes i like it very much, but sometimes i feel a little silly up there lol.

i feel less silly when i rest my upper body rather than being upright.

it can be a good way to find out what sort of movement you like, and where where exactly you like it etc. the guy can learn a lot that way too (can be hard for them to figure out sometimes).

one thing i've never tried (that i would quite like to try) is having sex in water (like in the ocean, i guess). don't know how that would go exactly lol.

[lastresort]

i guesse i'll give it a try... but my first time wasn't great... so i dont got got much confidence!!! i could have given him a hand job but i told him that i would suck at it so i woosed out of it...he said you cant %#@&#! up a handjob...is that true... any advise!?

love,
lastresort

hmm. so... the whole process was about him getting his kicks rather than about you finding something that you liked?

that would suck to be sure...

[lastresort]

he is awesome... he doesn't care if we ever have sex... plus both of us have no confidence at all in that area... i love him so i hope it works out... me and him both have the same feelings about the matter... so its not about him... but us!!!

love,
lastresort

[Rhapsody]

I say.... GO FOR IT!!!!! - as I hit the Bulls Eye more than not when I am on top.

[GYPSYEYES]

this may take alot of confidence... but imo soooooo well worth it if you try...being on top and facing other way.

mmm one of my favs gypsy.........

[jauneoiseau]

I guess the most important thing at the very end of the day is that you both love, care about and respect and trust one another. Then you're comfortable doing whatever together. Whether it be in the boudior or where ever you do "it".

I guess you just get to a point in your relationship eventually where you're trusting each other and are comfortable with each other so much that you're prepared to do just about anything for or with each other (within reason of course)- but of course healthy relationships have their boundaries too! Good luck with being on the top, bottom, side, upside down, inside out. . . etc. . .