Being told this by men a lot

This world is so judgemental. I'm sorry that you have met so many people like this . nobody seems to ask men that question when they are still single and no kids . everyone is different. Wouldn't it be boring if we were all the same . i hope you meet someone who doesn't act like that . try not to let them get to you.

Really? I am in my late 40s never married, no kids, and if someone said that to me I would punch them. I mean not on purpose I feel it would just happen.


There is nothing wrong with you next time say there is nothing wrong with me what is wrong with me of this generation that they can't tempt me.

Those men are really immature, who say that to you. I'm in my late 40s too, without children and I've never been married.


Society has changed, and some men just refuse to accept these changes that concern women being happy and successful in their lives without being married with children.


Actually, there are studies and research that show single women are happier than married women.

I get asked that all the time too. My answer for the last two decades has been “haven’t met a man deserving of myself yet”.

THANK YOU for this important thread UCLAFan!!! I have been divorced for many years (my decision) and will never marry again simply because I don't want to. It is of zero interest to me. I do have a significant other and my desire to not marry again seems to perplex almost everyone around me.


I have decided not to have children because I live with chronic depression and I don't want to risk post-partum depression or post-partum psychosis. Anyway, my point is that men and women marry/don't marry and procreate/don't procreate for all sorts of different reasons.


I am so sorry that you have had this reaction but I admit that I am not shocked by it at all. I've even had friends tell me: "Oh don't be silly! OF COURSE you'll get married again!" Or "You can't NOT have a baby...that's crazy...you would be a wonderful mother!" Even though I never asked if they thought I'd be a good parent


Perhaps we need to start an international club for women who are not married and without children in order to show the world that we are REAL. We are HUMAN. We are in fact WOMEN. And we like it that way And for those women who don't like it that way and wish for something different in the future...you're also welcome in our club


I have no problem with married folks and folks who love having babies. Men or women. We are all in this life together. I just think it's reasonable to identify the double standard. Men are considered persons in their own right therefore if they are single, divorced, married, fathers, childless...they are still certified people. Whereas society often takes a bizarrely reductive view of girls and women...if we aren't some fella's wife or future-wife and planning to have a few babies...then what are we? Confused? Mixed up? Not nice enough for a guy to stick around?


For me, the really trippy part is that these biases are not only coming from men. I get tired of hearing: "I didn't become a real woman until I had my baby" or "I didn't really grow up until I became a mother" or "It is selfish to choose not to have children." I think there are abused and neglected children who might argue that some selfish parents do in fact exist. And yes, some non-parents are selfish...but that doesn't mean we all are.


There's a good Ted Talk given by a strong and intelligent lifelong single woman (I think she's around 60) on the value of the single life. She also wrote an article on the disrespect and even aggression that some married folks display toward singletons. Very interesting. She basically points out that if someone is unmarried and happy that way...some married folks find her threatening because it challenges their world view that the only path to happiness is marriage + children. I think she may be onto something there.


I always say there is more that unites us than divides us!

I'm married so I don't get asked that, but I've seen unmarried friends get the same crap. "Oh, you're not married? Do you at least have a boyfriend? You're too pretty to be single."


So much wrong with that.


None of their blankety-blank business, for one thing. The other implications, such as only unattractive women should be single, I'm not even going to touch.


Sometimes the only thing you can say is, "Ugh."

I hate being asked what's wrong with you & why don't you have kids.i have had people say oh you must be picky & that's why you are alone.i admit I'm picky but for good reason.dated and lived with a loser when i was in my mid to late 20's & after i left him he staked me.i wasn't picky with him & now i know red flag when i see them

I'm In my late 40's never been married & no kids.when I tell men that they rudely say to me what's the matter with you & give me weird looks like they are judging me

I hate being asked what's wrong with you & why don't you have kids.i have had people say oh you must be picky & that's why you are alone.i admit I'm picky but for good reason.dated and lived with a loser when i was in my mid to late 20's & after i left him he staked me.i wasn't picky with him & now i know red flag when i see them

I'm In my late 40's never been married & no kids.when I tell men that they rudely say to me what's the matter with you & give me weird looks like they are judging me

I hate being asked what's wrong with you & why don't you have kids.i have had people say oh you must be picky & that's why you are alone.i admit I'm picky but for good reason.dated and lived with a loser when i was in my mid to late 20's & after i left him he staked me.i wasn't picky with him & now i know red flag when i see them