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Default Jul 16, 2020 at 03:06 PM
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Hi again.

Just wondering if anyone is a heteroromantic lesbian here or bisexual but only interested in romantic relationships with people of a different gender from themselves.

I do seem to find women's bodies more attractive, but have no desire to be with a woman sexually or romantically, at least at present. Am not sure about faces; while I tend to more instantly be attracted to male faces I like, I take longer to do so but find more women's faces generally attractive a lot of the time. However most women I find attractive tend to be on the screen, in the media in some way, whereas with men is more in real life.

The point is am only interested in romantic relationships with men but sex has always been a disaster with men and while I have no interest in being with a woman nor fantasise about it, it feels like that might sexually be more apt.

Wondering if anyone else feels a similar way.
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Default Jul 16, 2020 at 03:17 PM
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The concept of compulsory heterosexuality also makes sense to me and the way I have felt with men in the past.
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Default Jul 20, 2020 at 12:01 AM
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I'm not sure what to make of that term. I'm wondering if you say sex with men is bad because you aren't attracted to them that way or the men were inept.

Could you be asexual? I've heard that term thrown around.....
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Default Jul 20, 2020 at 02:51 PM
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It means you think you are straight because society has trained you to think that way. Maybe your true sexuality is that repressed that you convince yourself you are attracted to men.

Yes, could be asexual.
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Default Jul 20, 2020 at 06:43 PM
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Okay. But I think there are also some innate factors involved. I don't think we have much control over how our bodies respond. But I suppose there could be some learning (environment) involved.

So, what do you want to do with your sexuality? You say you are not attracted to men or women sexually, from what I gather.
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Default Jul 21, 2020 at 01:38 AM
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I can't be sure am not attracted to women sexually as have never been with a woman, but I don't fantasise about being with women or have any real drive to be with one. S
But I would say women are bodily and sometimes racially more attractive. Just wonder if I did end up in a situation where a woman kissed me or something, whether I would be genuinely tempted to kiss her back or go further. Maybe that's bi curious or maybe I have repressed it that much that I would make a point of resisting. Sometimes I get urges when close to men or women to kiss them, but I don't necessarily think of them as attractive. But anything further with men I know never goes well. I just have never seriously thought of having a relationship with a woman and when I see lesbian couples I don't feel like I could do that.

Sexually I probably won't do anything.

There is the other thing, have been getting more interested in Christianity lately, and of course Jesus never expressly said anything about homosexuality, but it is mentioned by his disciples as 'perverse' and something He might frown upon. But as am not really bothered anyway, I don't see it as a big deal. Don't think sexually I can do anything or should as as soon as I do I feel obliged to do things I don't want to, and with the conflicting feelings is probably a bad idea to start anything with anyone.

Am not judging anyone who is gay, btw. I recognise Christianity and its beliefs are not for everyone and a lot of people think it's rubbish. Am happy for anyone who is happy in any relationship. Is a personal thing.
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