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Poohbah
Member Since Mar 2013
Location: Europe
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#1
I am 29 I never Been kissed, I never dated, I never had a boyfriend, I never Had sex... And I am sad and ashamed about it... I am too old and too messed up to trust someone and give someone a chance.
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*Beth*, Discombobulated, NatalieJastrow, Raindropvampire
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I'm destined to be single. I'm gay but only came out last month at the grand old age of 35. I can't come out fully my parents would disown me. I don't like sex with guys it's revolting. I think I'm bi I like both guys and girls just the sex part you can keep.... I've been with 3 guys for a grand total of drum roll pleases 3 months in total. I got my 1st ever boyfriend when I was 24 and I had sex then and cause I was so manic I don't even remember anything about it.
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#3
I am single and I am happy with it. I am 50. Got you all beat.
Honestly, every guy I met just wasn't worth it. Perhaps it is that I have high standards and I wanted something not in my league. But I knew that each and every one of them would not be worth it. At a certain point I just realized that being with someone was not in the cards for me. Now of course, if someone great enters in my life, I am not going to throw him out.. but it is not shameful to not be with someone. Imho it is more shameful to settle and be miserable so you can do what society tell you to. I have seen so many women of my generation go though crazy drama with regard to relationships... I knew it wasn't for me. Many of my friends spent their entire savings on their weddings only to get divorced and be penniless. Many had a long term boyfriend who never proposed and left them for someone younger (taking up their entire dating life). Perhaps that was the time and the generation. But it was what it was. |
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#4
I agree whole heartedly with NatalieJastrow. At 38 and having been single for over 4 years, I’m happier than I was with all but one of my boyfriends. Even then, I probably wouldn’t date him again if I had to live my life a second time.
There’s nothing shameful about being single. People who judge you for that are narrow minded. Ok, if you don’t like being single, it can be tough - but I do think more people ought to at least try and learn to be happy without a partner. Love yourself, wholeheartedly, know your own worth and what you wouldn’t put up with if you did meet someone. |
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another single gal here. for me it's choice, I don't want to be with anyone anyway- with that said, I've never been aproached by anyone, never been kissed, never had all that... that's embarrassing a little- mainly because those who do see me get so scared of my looks they run for the hills, or something. a relationship- no. I don't want it. but a kiss... a kiss would be nice
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I've missed out so many experiences
never graduated. never got a certificate. never been invited anywhere. never been to a beach.. |
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HA! Well for those of us who have.. let me tell you... it isn't all it is cracked up to be. But I am sorry that you feel you missed out.
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Poohbah
Member Since Jun 2020
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#8
You're not missing that much tbh. My first b.f used me for sex, and he was awful. He wasn't a good guy at all. No one ever asked me out even though adults and my parents told me that I was pretty. So I asked him out and I dumped him after a few months.
He never took me anywhere and he even told me that I was 'lame'. All he wanted to do was smoke pot and drink. He had no job, nothing. I'ts better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel alone, trust me on that. I've known lots of women who ended up with guys who didn't treat them well and it made them very unhappy. One woman I used to know married two drug addicts and they both left her to raise their kids on her own with no child support. One gave her an STD and emptied her bank account. He ran off with his dealer. Things aren't like they are in the movies or on tv usually. Maybe you were meant to meet a good guy later in life. I met my husband after I wasted time with that loser by luck through a mutual friend. You could try dating or ask friends to hook you up, but honestly, it's better to hang out with friends and do things that you enjoy and not except another person to make you happy. |
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you aren't messed up...and you are still young to explore ..don't think you are messed up I've had a few serious relationships and most guys used me and abused me. many single people think that relationships are perfect, and they are far FROM perfect, that much i can tell you. plus most people will post online on social media their "perfect date " or if they go away on vacation, etc, just for the world to see. you truly don't know what the relationship is going through...for all you know they could be miserable but staying in the relationship and just posting images online to make themselves feel better. |
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I have a friend whose daughter is 29, still lives with him and his wife, never dated, never had a boyfriend, and is not missing any of that. He would have preferred for her to venture out, but he cannot make her and he respects that she is happy single. In your case, you aren't happy, but I am just pointing out that there are people your age, in your shoes, who do not find this state of affairs shameful. |
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BTW there is a movement for women who are alone... WGTOW-Women Going Their Own Way.
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