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Default Dec 28, 2020 at 08:00 PM
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I am 29 I never Been kissed, I never dated, I never had a boyfriend, I never Had sex... And I am sad and ashamed about it... I am too old and too messed up to trust someone and give someone a chance.
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Default Dec 29, 2020 at 01:51 AM
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I'm destined to be single. I'm gay but only came out last month at the grand old age of 35. I can't come out fully my parents would disown me. I don't like sex with guys it's revolting. I think I'm bi I like both guys and girls just the sex part you can keep.... I've been with 3 guys for a grand total of drum roll pleases 3 months in total. I got my 1st ever boyfriend when I was 24 and I had sex then and cause I was so manic I don't even remember anything about it.

Things will happen. It just might be slower for you. You go at your own pace remember. Some day your Prince will come as the song goes
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Default Dec 29, 2020 at 06:45 AM
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I am single and I am happy with it. I am 50. Got you all beat.

Honestly, every guy I met just wasn't worth it. Perhaps it is that I have high standards and I wanted something not in my league. But I knew that each and every one of them would not be worth it. At a certain point I just realized that being with someone was not in the cards for me. Now of course, if someone great enters in my life, I am not going to throw him out.. but it is not shameful to not be with someone. Imho it is more shameful to settle and be miserable so you can do what society tell you to.

I have seen so many women of my generation go though crazy drama with regard to relationships... I knew it wasn't for me. Many of my friends spent their entire savings on their weddings only to get divorced and be penniless. Many had a long term boyfriend who never proposed and left them for someone younger (taking up their entire dating life). Perhaps that was the time and the generation. But it was what it was.
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Default Dec 29, 2020 at 07:18 AM
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I agree whole heartedly with NatalieJastrow. At 38 and having been single for over 4 years, I’m happier than I was with all but one of my boyfriends. Even then, I probably wouldn’t date him again if I had to live my life a second time.
There’s nothing shameful about being single. People who judge you for that are narrow minded. Ok, if you don’t like being single, it can be tough - but I do think more people ought to at least try and learn to be happy without a partner. Love yourself, wholeheartedly, know your own worth and what you wouldn’t put up with if you did meet someone.
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Default Dec 31, 2020 at 11:29 AM
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another single gal here. for me it's choice, I don't want to be with anyone anyway- with that said, I've never been aproached by anyone, never been kissed, never had all that... that's embarrassing a little- mainly because those who do see me get so scared of my looks they run for the hills, or something. a relationship- no. I don't want it. but a kiss... a kiss would be nice
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Default Dec 31, 2020 at 11:30 AM
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I've missed out so many experiences

never graduated. never got a certificate. never been invited anywhere. never been to a beach..
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Default Dec 31, 2020 at 12:53 PM
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I've missed out so many experiences

never graduated. never got a certificate. never been invited anywhere. never been to a beach..
HA! Well for those of us who have.. let me tell you... it isn't all it is cracked up to be. But I am sorry that you feel you missed out.
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Default Jan 04, 2021 at 01:06 AM
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You're not missing that much tbh. My first b.f used me for sex, and he was awful. He wasn't a good guy at all. No one ever asked me out even though adults and my parents told me that I was pretty. So I asked him out and I dumped him after a few months.

He never took me anywhere and he even told me that I was 'lame'. All he wanted to do was smoke pot and drink. He had no job, nothing. I'ts better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel alone, trust me on that.

I've known lots of women who ended up with guys who didn't treat them well and it made them very unhappy. One woman I used to know married two drug addicts and they both left her to raise their kids on her own with no child support. One gave her an STD and emptied her bank account. He ran off with his dealer.

Things aren't like they are in the movies or on tv usually. Maybe you were meant to meet a good guy later in life. I met my husband after I wasted time with that loser by luck through a mutual friend. You could try dating or ask friends to hook you up, but honestly, it's better to hang out with friends and do things that you enjoy and not except another person to make you happy.
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Default Jan 09, 2023 at 01:01 PM
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I am 29 I never Been kissed, I never dated, I never had a boyfriend, I never Had sex... And I am sad and ashamed about it... I am too old and too messed up to trust someone and give someone a chance.

you aren't messed up...and you are still young to explore ..don't think you are messed up


I've had a few serious relationships and most guys used me and abused me.

many single people think that relationships are perfect, and they are far FROM perfect, that much i can tell you. plus most people will post online on social media their "perfect date " or if they go away on vacation, etc, just for the world to see. you truly don't know what the relationship is going through...for all you know they could be miserable but staying in the relationship and just posting images online to make themselves feel better.
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I am 29 I never Been kissed, I never dated, I never had a boyfriend, I never Had sex... And I am sad and ashamed about it... I am too old and too messed up to trust someone and give someone a chance.
The mom of one of my close girlfriends (from back in childhood) was a virgin until age 29. But then she got married and is still married to my my friend's dad who is now 81. And they are very actively involved in raising their granddaughter. You don't know what might await soon. Better not to think of yourself as too old. Especially nowadays when it is customary to live with parents.

I have a friend whose daughter is 29, still lives with him and his wife, never dated, never had a boyfriend, and is not missing any of that. He would have preferred for her to venture out, but he cannot make her and he respects that she is happy single. In your case, you aren't happy, but I am just pointing out that there are people your age, in your shoes, who do not find this state of affairs shameful.
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BTW there is a movement for women who are alone... WGTOW-Women Going Their Own Way.
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