Frustrated

Hi I have a problem in my relationship and I'm blaming myself for it . The thing is that since i feel frustrated whith myself I dump it all on my relationship. my husband is a nice person, and is always willing to help me but i feel that I am unbalancing everything and always putting him down. Everything that he does I put it down or criticise it. I scream at him to see if he returns the screams and has never done so. So the only one that is frustrated is me. My motives are that I would like a different life, a different place to live in. But it's a difficult situation since I might have to leave him, and he seems the perfect man: understanding, patient, willing, hard worker, etc all that I am not This last week I have been more anxious than normal because one of his brothers is going to spend some time with us and i don't like it I feel so selfish with my husband! I don't want to be this way!!!

I fell totaly the opposite, even worthless and it ha gone for some time. Even though I put my husband down i know he is a nice person but I am abusing him in some way. i don't know how to control all these feelings! I feel very bad, and i feel that maybe I shoud separtae or something because i can't get the frustrtion out of my head.

At 32 i would like to start to stud and improve myself professionally but I feel so worthless thinking that i am not a normal personal since i can abuse somebody and am no fit for anything.

Also my husband is from a different culture and i kind of feel that his values are different from mine. Maybe it would be better to separate in order not to hurt him more and not create any problems in his family. i mean I don't want to be selfish.

(((((stitlskin))))) Do you love your husband? We often tend to hurt the ones we love the most.

Your post could be my bio from when I first got married. I had no idea how to deal with with everything and I dumped it all on him. Luckily for me he was willing to take it.

Have you thought of councelling to learn to deal with your frustration and your marriage? Are you currently seeking treatment for yourself?

I would agree that counseling might be in order for you. if you love him and want to keep the marriage together. I have been in his shoes and it is no fun at all. I have a husband that is willing to do whatever I want. I love him dearly. he is my sweetheart for sure.