harvesting eggs

salukigirl · Mar 23, 2008 at 08:58 PM

its a very tempting offer. $7,000 to harvest my eggs. but i know that it pays that well most likely for a reason. i didnt know if anyone in here knew of the health risks that go along with it or had done it before. as a poor college student, everyone has their price lol. that 7 grand would be nice but i dont know what all comes along with it.

Perna · Mar 23, 2008 at 09:05 PM

Article: http://www.usatoday.com/money/indust...ors-usat_x.htm

Looks like I'd be very careful.

salukigirl · Mar 23, 2008 at 09:38 PM

thanks for that link. i dont think i could actually bring myself to do it.... but it would be nice money. also the hormones thing... 2 aunts and both of my grandma's have had breast cancer. 3/4 of those were before the age of 30 and 1 specifically was from hormone treatment with estrogen. so that would probably be the deal breaker. i wouldnt want to pump myself full of hormones.

LMo · Mar 24, 2008 at 12:58 AM

I'm not encouraging you to do this, but the hormone is actually an estrogen inhibitor, not estrogen itself

youOme · Mar 24, 2008 at 01:07 AM

I would totally sell my eggs for 7 grand.

sunrise · Mar 24, 2008 at 02:39 AM

I guess what bothers me is how coercive it is, the $10K for the eggs. That is a lot of money and what, in human subjects research, we call "coercive." This is a medical procedure, not without risk, and women strapped for cash find the large sum hard to resist, i.e. "coercive." If the fee were only $100, how many women would do it?

This viewpoint is not quite the perfect fit here, as this is not research, but still, I think it has relevance.

salukigirl · Mar 24, 2008 at 07:59 AM

there are several states that have banned, or are trying to ban, paying women that amount to do it and forcing the companies to tell women about the risks. because women do go and do it without thinking about the risks just because its such a large sum of money. so i guess theyre thinking that by making companies pay smaller amounts, the women they get will be doing it for the right reasons.

Rhapsody · Mar 24, 2008 at 09:47 AM

I personally could not sell my eggs as the child that came from the harvest would be of me and I would never see him or be part of his / her life....... just to emotional for me.

salukigirl · Mar 24, 2008 at 11:07 AM

rhap - i understand that also. its the same as donating sperm. there might be a little you running around and there is no chance to see it or meet it. but at the same time, these people who are willing to do anything for a child would be happy. and i suspect that anyone who is willing to go that far to birth a child is going to be more than grateful and loving towards it. there are always exceptions but i dont think someone would spend thousands of dollars and hours preparing for something theyre not going to take care of.

for me its basically just the health risks part of it. as some of you already know, ive had several ruptured ovarian cysts and uterin polyps that mean i might not even be able to have kids. so going and having a procedure that could further my inability to have children isn't something i necessarily want. just with the job market so horrible and the economy so horrible its really hard to resist.

youOme · Mar 24, 2008 at 12:37 PM

On the good note of it though...you'd be giving women who can't conceive on their own a chance to have their own families. Most women in fertility banks are desperate to be mothers. If they want it so badly I'd just assume in most cases they'd be great mothers. MOST cases...not all. There's definitely a risk there.

Perna · Mar 24, 2008 at 12:40 PM

I imagine with your health problems you might not be suitable for the procedure too?

I would think people paying lots of money for a child are the kind that would not take good care of a child, want a child for status or ego reasons, are thinking more of themselves and picturing "their" child, etc. instead of the child and its needs.

I don't know if I'd mind the possible child of mine running around scenario or not, it feels a bit far removed. I have an organ donor identity and that feels similar to me.

youOme · Mar 24, 2008 at 01:11 PM

When my mother hit 32 she went through that "biological clock ticking" thing...I think if she had the means, she would have paid alot of money for fertility, or to have her tubes untied.

Luckily she was broke..heh

Rhapsody · Mar 24, 2008 at 03:41 PM

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Then if it is the health factor that concerns you the most....... I would say that I might "might" consider doing it for a close family member that was barren or for my best friend of twenty-five years (Maybe ? still not sure) - but I personally would not put my own life on the line - at risk just for the money.

salukigirl · Mar 24, 2008 at 06:42 PM

perna - thats an interesting thought on it. i wouldnt have thought of it that way.

yea i would definately do it for a close relative. too bad my whole family is the definition of fertile lol. my sister got pregnant the first time after being on birth control for 7 years. so we don't need it haha

Gracey · Mar 25, 2008 at 06:49 PM

The other thing to consider is, all clinics also require psychological evaluation. The first "donor" my friend was interested in didn't pass the comprehensive psych eval.

Not that you wouldn't. . .but they consider things like your support system, stressors in your everyday life, stuff like that.

youOme · Mar 26, 2008 at 09:48 AM

Some places go by BMI, height, color of eyes, GPA..all sorts of stuff. It's definitely difficult to become a donor.

salukigirl · Mar 26, 2008 at 12:13 PM

i think they just take a stock pile and then if someone were to come in and say "i want a 5'10'' 170 lb girl with reddish brown hair, green eyes and a 4.0" they would pick my eggs lol.

cheetah · Mar 28, 2008 at 07:28 PM

Aside from the money, there are lots of ethical issues with this. Rhapsody said it well that a potential child of yours would be out there somewhere. For some (myself) this would be a problem. I wouldn't do it for any amount of money but it's a personal choice of course.

Mar 30, 2008 at 12:45 PM

I would never know if my (and it would still be mine in my head) child was being abused emotionaly or in any way at all, I would be forever wondering how many of my children are out there .........

Nope not for me.

AAAAA · Mar 31, 2008 at 02:51 PM

First of all, I believe that it's a physcially painful experience. Second, I too would gladly give my eggs to a family member. My husband's sister and her husband were unable to have children and they ended up adopting my most beautiful niece from China.

I see both sides of the issue, I can't imagine what I would have done if I would have been unable to have children. I would love to be able to give that gift to someone else, but I would have to know who it is, I wouldn't be able to rely on a clinic to make that decision for me.

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salukigirl Magnate Member Since Oct 2007 Location: Fayetteville, AR Posts: 2,798 17 2 hugs given	Mar 23, 2008 at 08:58 PM #1 its a very tempting offer. $7,000 to harvest my eggs. but i know that it pays that well most likely for a reason. i didnt know if anyone in here knew of the health risks that go along with it or had done it before. as a poor college student, everyone has their price lol. that 7 grand would be nice but i dont know what all comes along with it.
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Perna Pandita-in-training Member Since Sep 2006 Location: Maryland Posts: 27,289 (SuperPoster!) 18 550 hugs given	Mar 23, 2008 at 09:05 PM #2 Article: http://www.usatoday.com/money/indust...ors-usat_x.htm Looks like I'd be very careful. __________________ "Never give a sword to a man who can't dance." ~Confucius
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LMo Elder Member Since Jan 2003 Location: Pacific NW Posts: 6,224 21	Mar 24, 2008 at 12:58 AM #4 I'm not encouraging you to do this, but the hormone is actually an estrogen inhibitor, not estrogen itself __________________ thatsallicantypewithonehand
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youOme Grand Member Member Since Oct 2007 Location: Some place beyond myself, West Virginia Posts: 999 17	Mar 24, 2008 at 01:07 AM #5 I would totally sell my eggs for 7 grand.
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Rhapsody Wise Elder Member Since Jan 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 9,946 18 1 hugs given	Mar 24, 2008 at 09:47 AM #8 I personally could not sell my eggs as the child that came from the harvest would be of me and I would never see him or be part of his / her life....... just to emotional for me.
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youOme Grand Member Member Since Oct 2007 Location: Some place beyond myself, West Virginia Posts: 999 17	Mar 24, 2008 at 12:37 PM #10 On the good note of it though...you'd be giving women who can't conceive on their own a chance to have their own families. Most women in fertility banks are desperate to be mothers. If they want it so badly I'd just assume in most cases they'd be great mothers. MOST cases...not all. There's definitely a risk there.
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youOme Grand Member Member Since Oct 2007 Location: Some place beyond myself, West Virginia Posts: 999 17	Mar 24, 2008 at 01:11 PM #12 When my mother hit 32 she went through that "biological clock ticking" thing...I think if she had the means, she would have paid alot of money for fertility, or to have her tubes untied. Luckily she was broke..heh
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salukigirl Magnate Member Since Oct 2007 Location: Fayetteville, AR Posts: 2,798 17 2 hugs given	Mar 24, 2008 at 06:42 PM #14 perna - thats an interesting thought on it. i wouldnt have thought of it that way. yea i would definately do it for a close relative. too bad my whole family is the definition of fertile lol. my sister got pregnant the first time after being on birth control for 7 years. so we don't need it haha
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youOme Grand Member Member Since Oct 2007 Location: Some place beyond myself, West Virginia Posts: 999 17	Mar 26, 2008 at 09:48 AM #16 Some places go by BMI, height, color of eyes, GPA..all sorts of stuff. It's definitely difficult to become a donor.
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salukigirl Magnate Member Since Oct 2007 Location: Fayetteville, AR Posts: 2,798 17 2 hugs given	Mar 26, 2008 at 12:13 PM #17 i think they just take a stock pile and then if someone were to come in and say "i want a 5'10'' 170 lb girl with reddish brown hair, green eyes and a 4.0" they would pick my eggs lol.
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cheetah Account Suspended Member Since Mar 2008 Location: Africa Posts: 162 16	Mar 28, 2008 at 07:28 PM #18 Aside from the money, there are lots of ethical issues with this. Rhapsody said it well that a potential child of yours would be out there somewhere. For some (myself) this would be a problem. I wouldn't do it for any amount of money but it's a personal choice of course.
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Anonymous29402 Guest Posts: n/a	Mar 30, 2008 at 12:45 PM #19 I would never know if my (and it would still be mine in my head) child was being abused emotionaly or in any way at all, I would be forever wondering how many of my children are out there ......... Nope not for me.
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