Are men worth it ???

I have a lot of marriage AND dating after divorce experience under my belt, but for the past 4 years, since joining PC, I've abstained from dating or trying to meet men in any circumstance. My experiences were SO bad, taking inordinately long times from which to recover. The past 4 years have been peaceful for me, and during that time I worked on and completed my M.A. in Art at a local university...something I had foregone in order to find "Mr. Right." LOL. When I was in "dating mode," I approached each relationship with optimism, and if it seemed to blossom romantically, I put it at the forefront of priorities. Sadly, the significant other did not! I'm not talking minor glitches here, but stalkers, con artists, and perverts who eventually revealed their true colors. This has left me feeling I have a very bad judgment of character, and best to leave the dating to others.
I found a great deal of satisfaction and self-esteem in improving myself thru education. During this time, also, I learned, for the first time to be content alone. I still like men, but no longer think of the possibilities out there.
Sorry if I sound cynical. I'm not really. It's all a process of growth for me.
Love
Patty

I think some men are worth it, and some men are not. You have the honest ones who really want to love you for you and want to be in a relationship for all the right reasons. And then you have the ones that are just not. Same rule applies to women, though. There are both men and women out there that aren't worth it. But, you can't let those bad apples ruin it for the good ones. There are good people out there.

LOL!!!!! slowly approach and open nasal cavities..... Think they can see our nose quiver..

I have been just introducing myself with a hand shake and make very brief conversation then scoot.

I like your post as well Stepahnie . I belive you will catch a king fish one of these days.. .

Patricia

Hi Patty,

I don't think its so much bad judgement on our part as it is they see a victium. Maybe not able to see the red flags but more importantly stay in this denile and confusion as to if we are seeing what we are seeing. Most people do not want to believe these things are possible. I don't and I certainly don't want to belive I'm with someone like that or attracted to them.

Im inspired by what you have done Patty , Don't give up . you have so much to offer . Start a little God box asking to have someone safe and loving to enter your life . You got plenty of time to wait because your not looking. Maybe a surprise will happen. You have an alblum of art work? One of the things I have thought about doing is teaching art. Just don't know if I'm good enough. to pursue that. And Im getting alot older.

Patricia

Hi, Patricia...I'm betting you would be a GREAT Art teacher. A great artist does not necessarily a great teacher make, ya know. It's the ability to SEE students' work from their child perspective that is the better quality, and you seem to have that!
I thank you for your feedback on the relationship with men thing. I seem to have reached a place where I no longer even want that in my life. Can't imagine even wanting to accommodate another's presence. Add to that, that I've already been there/done that quite a bit, and the solo lifestyle is quite pleasant.
Love
Patty

i think about 98% of them arent worth more than gum on the bottom of your shoe. but every now and then you come across a really amazing guy.

I have had the chewing gum and now I thank God I have a gem but I had to go through lots of nasty gum on my shoe to get him.

Some men are worth it, some are not. Some women are worth it, some are not.

When you have had a bad run of things it often seems like ALL the men/women might be that way.. but thats a distortion. Its all or nothing thinking. Which is not exactly true. There are wonderful men out there, and wonderful women, and you just have to keep looking and reevaluate the type you are going for if its not working for you.

Hello,

I think there are decent men out there, but a gal has to kiss an awful lot of frogs to find that one prince.

Anyway... just my humble opinion... but the problem I see with why the divorce rate is so high in the USA.. is that too many women end up kissing frogs and marrying them anyway, lol.

Such women, I think suffer from "8 inch myopia". They look at... (ahem)... "that"... and they can't see anything else, lol.

While that 8 inch device is important... I think these women need to spend more time examining the far larger object to which it is attached.

Peppermint Patty