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Nov 19, 2008 at 11:26 PM
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soo umm, I know this is an incredibly weird question.
but, umm, wow this is embarrassing. But did any of you women here go through what I like to call baby fever? I guess I should explain, I'm only 18, but I have this overwhelming need to be a Mom, and have a kid. Don't get alarmed, I am not going to act on these thoughts or wants. But it's like my hormones are going nuts. I just..wanted to see if any other women went through this, I know..this is really weird and random....sorry I just need to make sure I haven't completely fallen of the rocker. |
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Nov 19, 2008 at 11:35 PM
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I did, and was only a little older than you. I wanted something to love me unconditionally, and they do. My dad got me a puppy. It worked !!!!
 Baby fever went away!
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Elder
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Nov 20, 2008 at 12:00 AM
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I personally never did, but then I believe I am not the norm. Almost every other woman I know went through this. Don't get me wrong--I 1000% adore my children and love them beyond belief, but it was never an urge or obsession to have children.
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Nov 20, 2008 at 09:28 AM
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I had both my children before I was 20. that being said I had to have a hysterectomy when I was 24. I did want more children and I have gone thru babyfever since. I finally got over it a couple of years ago. I am now 51 lol. so yes hon it is normal
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Nov 20, 2008 at 10:00 AM
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Thank you for your responses. lol I was afraid I was going crazier. I guess it's because most of my friends aren't going through this. I can't help it every time I see a baby this little part of me just starts, thinking about having a baby and being a mom.
I think it will pass, lol and I would get a dog, but I already have one, I have noticed I've been babying her more her lately (((((((((((Everyone))))))))) |
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Nov 20, 2008 at 06:25 PM
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it's ok (((sparrow))). i got pregnant when i was 18, and desperately wanted to keep her. before that, kids always made me disgusted. things always turn upside down when you get pregnant hehe.
it will pass, and come back later  but in the meantime, dogs are wonderful babies! twilight
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Nov 24, 2008 at 04:48 AM
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Hi Silver,
I have also heard this 'baby fever' being described either needing to love or to be loved. It often appears when we are feeling most vulnerable or emotionally unsettled. I don't know if it is true but may be worth exploring if the 'fever' doesn't pass. __________________ Tired12 
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Nov 24, 2008 at 12:37 PM
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 Yes, I did, starting at the age of 14. During my child bearing years and married, I would have been happy to get pregnant again about 6 months after the last baby. It didn't happen.  I see a new born infant now and I want to have a new baby of my own. I'm 65!!!  It saddens me, too, that all my kids have had their families and there will be no more babies. I think part of it, in our youth, is hormones. Oh, those hormones! They can cause problems is so many ways. LOL I'm a nurturer by nature, so that's my other problem as far as human babies go. I've got pets and plants that are "my babies" now. Maybe you could adopt a kitten or a puppy? When I was a child, I had a rabbit that I had trained to eat a carrot while laying in my lap like a baby. 
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Nov 24, 2008 at 01:39 PM
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silversparrow, welcome to womanhood! I've had the baby fevers for a couple years now (I'm 22). We just have an instinctive need to "nest" when we reach a certain age. That doesn't mean that you SHOULD have a baby though - the right time will come for that.
But yeah, it's totally normal. I'm all ready to get married, get a house and start plopping out babies lol. When a guy shows interest in me, I discretely ask him "how do you feel about marriage and children?", if he doesn't want either... NEXT! x) |
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Nov 24, 2008 at 02:28 PM
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((((((((((((( silversparrow )))))))))))))))
I have gone through baby fever several times, occasionally I still get it and I have 5 kids with no desire to have another one. I have my tubes tied so hopefully I don't have to worry about having anymore. With my many journeys through baby fever I think I may have found the cure, BABYSITTING especially young children, a few hours of babysitting puts things back in prospective for me.
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Nov 28, 2008 at 06:49 PM
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Oh my, this is SO ME. I have a nine month old and I'm just about DYING to be pregnant again with another. I don't have the opportunity right now but if i did I would want to. Im hoping to wait until im a bit more stable financially, but I wouldn't give the child away if i ended up with another now.
My whole life all I have wanted to do is have babies. I want four, at LEAST. I have one, now i need a husband, and several more. 
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Nov 28, 2008 at 07:50 PM
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I am having baby fever, too...but I am 34. I never had such a desire to have a baby, but now I want to have one with my BF. We are waiting a year so that we can be a bit more financially stable. It's only natural to have that feeling.
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Nov 29, 2008 at 01:54 PM
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I get the baby fever sometimes, too. I've got 3 children now, and there are times when I desperately want another. But then I look after my nieces who are 2 years old and 11 months old and I change my mind! lol My kids are 9, 7 and 6, so they are pretty capable of doing most things for themselves. I just realize that I'm not used to having a baby in the house I guess. Babies are great, and I love them to pieces, but I don't think it's something I could handle again!!
 Thankfully, my hubby had a vasectomy after our last child was born. heh heh
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Nov 29, 2008 at 04:25 PM
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the cure for baby fever:
sending 3 grandchildren your way...........     have fun!!! __________________ Life shouldn't be this hard . 
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Nov 29, 2008 at 04:45 PM
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Hi Silver, I'm not sure where you are from but in Australia we call that feeling being "Clucky". You see it's SO normal we have a common term for it. I had my first baby when I was 19 and would not change a thing (except my age
). I'm 38 and have three more children now, all under school age, I am single again (thank goodness!) and love those babies to bits (even the giant annoying one who woke me up at 3:30 am cos he forgot his key ). When I see a heavily pregnant woman I feel like walking up to her and saying " HA HA, thats not me anymore!". but when I see a newborn I get soooo jealous and think "I want that again". My youngest turned one in october and I cried a LOT, I think it was the trigger for this spiral I've been in lately!. It's all normal, natural, when the time comes you will have a baby, and maybe Still get "CLUCKY" and maybe not. Either way it's not a bad feeling is it?.
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Nov 29, 2008 at 06:38 PM
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lol I may be getting a puppy,
if she is still at the shelter on Wednesday, I will adopt her. I figure it will help me to have something small and cuddly to take care of, Plus my other dog could use a companion,
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Nov 29, 2008 at 07:08 PM
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Dec 01, 2008 at 07:34 AM
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awww sparrow that puppy is SOO CUTE
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Dec 01, 2008 at 05:51 PM
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Wow. Me too, Sparrow. I am 18, and I've got a really terrible case of baby fever. It's really overwhelming. Good luck..
I know I need it!!!
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Dec 04, 2008 at 01:11 AM
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and yaaa... I think babyfever = norm
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