Back down here yonder way LOL

Hi Raynaadi,

It's Patricia

Your topic title "back down here yoder way" is posted in the womens forum.
When you tried to change the title to " Female sex drive LOL" in order to attract the right traffic it did not change the title on the forum . So I made a new topic with your new title linking it to your down under way. ony I forgot the exact wording. Im not sure you can follow links.

heres a link to the topic I started .

http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=87062

if you can't access the link then its titled in the womens forum as

FFemale sex issues LOL !

In trying to be helpful I think I just made things more complicated.

embarassed grin.

Patricia

Lol Oh you didn't make it more complicated. In order for it to have changed in the forum the original post would have to be edited. Only a mod can do that. I can follow links, so I'll check it out. Thank you!!!

Hi Raynaadi,
I know the feeling of being with someone who isn't inimate. It hurts, I don't understand it either. But I do know if a man tell you that sex is not on his list of priorities and he's giving you a long list of things that are you've got to decide if it's worth staying with someone who isn't able to give you everything thing you want and need. Sex isn't a big deal for some people but it is for others. His priorities may never shift back to sex. If the rest of the relationship is good than it will probably be a difficult decision but take him at his word. Sex is not a priority for him.

~Christy

By the way, I like the name raynaadi (randy) meaning horny!! LOL! Best of luck to you!

I can't say that my husband is like that.. we're young.. though i know how you feel a tiny bit. He doesn't seem in the mood lately.. or he just doesnt act like hes attracted to me.. i don't know.
but it sucks!!! It makes you feel unwanted and ugly, doesn't it?
I sure feel that way.
I had a friend, though, whose boyfriend didn't want to have sex ever. And he was like 22 years old at the time. She was very sexual so this was weird to her. I'm not sure what his problem was with sex, but he was not into it. Anyway, I just want you to know you aren't alone, and I'm sorry for what you're going through.

I don't understand though, why men want sex like crazy in their early 20's and teens and women don't usually. And then by the time women get older, they want sex and then men don't. What is up with this? Why can't both men and women want sex around the same age? I bet that's why older women get with younger men.. because older men just aren't into sex as much as younger ones..

weird.

You can't always get what you want

But if you try sometimes
Well you just might find
You get what you need

My theory about the age thing is that men start experiencing "performance issues" as young as thirty. That becomes a big issue for them because they feel they can't please their woman. Its silly, what with all the drugs out there now.

Nothing has improved for us. In part because I just haven't said anything. The last time we talked about it I didn't feel any better because of his list of priorities comment. I go through phases where it doesn't bother me as much and I can focus on how great he is in all other areas. But then I go and do something stupid on Monday. I can email his phone so I sent him a sexy type email, just a quick comment about demonstrating something for me that I couldn't see on tv. He replied with "lol". I knew I'd get a response like that. Anytime I do anything flirty or sexy he totally blows it off. I know I need to talk about this again because its gotten me in a total funk this week. But I know the answer I'll get so whats the point? My friend told me I need all the information so I can make an informed decision about how to proceed. IE if its not gonna change, can I live with this. Ugh. This just sucks. With all the crap I'm dealing with and making it through, sex should NOT be one of the things stressing me out. Well, lack there of I should say. Tomorrow will be ten months. Sigh.

We finally talked last night. I was able to get out what I needed to get out. He reassured me again that its not me and said he thinks he needs to go back to therapy. For now all I can do is hope that he follows that up with action and really takes a look at what's going on. I feel a little better having gotten stuff out but its still hard. Who knows how long it will take him to find a T and then how often he'll see the T and how soon thing will start to get better. All I can do is continue to work on myself and take it one day at a time. Thank you all for being here for me and I'm sure I'll need to continue talking about this.

Hugs,
Rayna