 |
| FAQ/Help |
| Calendar |
| Search |
|
Magnate
Member Since Oct 2007
Location: Fayetteville, AR
Posts: 2,798
17 2 hugs
given 
|
Mar 20, 2009 at 03:20 PM
#1
ive started to feel very threatened when it comes to my bf. he started feeling really down about how he looked so he started working out 5 days a week. and all of a sudden im getting jealous like no other. i dont know if im afraid that hell get all buff and go looking for someone else but ever since he started going to the rec center everyday i just feel horrible about myself. he wants me to go with him but i work everyday and have class from 8-12 so theres no way i can get to the gym.
he says hes not doing it for anyone else. he said hes mostly doing it for himself (but doing it a little for me too) and i believe him. im just so terrified that he's going to become this whole other person and i wont be around anymore. i dont know why him improving himself is making me feel so awful. i know its just me being stupid but i dont know how to change it. |
|
 Reply With Quote
|
|
Wise Elder
Member Since Jan 2006
Location: Florida
Posts: 9,946
18 1 hugs
given
|
Mar 20, 2009 at 08:13 PM
#2
Fear of the Unknown is always a scary place to be.... but take it from someone that has been where you are - he is not going any where and he is truly doing it for himself..... to help him feel better about who he is as a persona and a man.
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
 salukigirl
|
|
Magnate
Member Since Oct 2007
Location: Fayetteville, AR
Posts: 2,798
17 2 hugs
given
|
Mar 20, 2009 at 10:24 PM
#3
thanks rhap. youre always good at making me feel better. i think i just needed to get that off my chest. i tried talking to him about it but bc he knows that hes not going to do that he just doesnt get what im saying. then he gets kind of upset that i would think something like that anyways. thanks.
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Member
Member Since Jan 2008
Posts: 59
16 |
Mar 20, 2009 at 11:39 PM
#4
I sympathize. One the one hand you want your BF to be all that he can be, but it can be scary to think he's so great that he wouldn't need you. I think that the first response to your thread was amazing - just remember that he's chosen to be with you and that he cares about you. If something were going weird, you will know. Hang in there!
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Magnate
Member Since Oct 2007
Location: Fayetteville, AR
Posts: 2,798
17 2 hugs
given
|
Mar 21, 2009 at 07:59 PM
#5
thanks ariane. i actually started this self-defense course which is pretty physical and it has made me feel better about myself already. i think i just need to work on being more comfortable with my own body so i dont feel so bad that he's improving his.
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
|
Member
Member Since Jan 2008
Posts: 59
16 |
Mar 22, 2009 at 06:29 PM
#6
Definitely! Exercise is really wonderful. I find that when you start training and seeing all the amazing things you can get your body to do, appearances also seem less important. Good luck!
|
|
|
Reply With Quote
|
| Reply |
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
|
My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.
Linear Mode
