[NishQuiche92]

I got laid off on Thursday, and I have no idea how to tell that to my family. I have had really poor luck with jobs the past couple of years and I don't know how to tell them that I lost another one.
But I'm less worried about the disappointment that they will have in me, and more worried about them trying to force me into yet another job.The last few jobs I have had, my family has pushed me into. I was miserable in all those jobs, and they have all ended badly. I feel guilty, and sometimes I feel like they use that against me to get the upper hand.
I dont want to disappoint them....but at the same time, I want to try and do what is best for me...I think they have a hard time understanding this though. So I don't know what to do at this point, because they wont understand. I want to use this as an opportunity to grow and change and become a better person...but I think my family will try and push me back down a road I feel only has a dead end. And it's not from lack of trying...I've been down the road multiple times, but it always turns out the same results...and I am tired of feeling like I am stuck.
How to I let my family know that I don't want them getting involved in this? I hate feeling like I need to keep my job loss a secret from them...but I know that if I tell them, they will constantly nag me about what I have to do...and I know it isn't what is best for me. How do I get my family to back off without pissing them all off?

[tigerlily84]

I'm so sorry to read this. I think you need to be honest with them, first and foremost. That's very important. Also I think that you have the right attitude in thinking that you want to use this as an opportunity to grow and change. If you do go into a job that you do not enjoy, make sure to convey to your family that this is a temporary solution.

May I ask if you are the main breadwinner? Is there any way that another member of your family can look for a job as well so all the pressure isn't on you? If they are already working, is it possible for them work more hours to make up for the loss of income? Bottom line: tell them how you feel when they nag you about what you need to do. Remember that if you haven't told them, they don't have any idea. They aren't mind readers. I hope this made sense, and that I didn't come across as condescending. I apologize if I have. I wish you the very best and good luck in your job search!