[Neversolost]

How do I seek a job as an admin asst when I can't even admin my own life??

[NOS-NOS]

Originally Posted by Neversolost

How do I seek a job as an admin asst when I can't even admin my own life??

How has your work been in the past? I know for me, I act differently at work then the rest of my life. If I was paid to just live, I would probably do things differently

[Perna]

First you have to be trained for and find such a job, harder now that everyone is doing their own computer work. But then you make the job part of your life and let the work help you organize the rest of your life. In other words, you make something work (finding, getting and doing a job) and then use the principles you used there to structure the rest of your life one area at a time.

[Neversolost]

I had a job in the medical field that I loved, although the atmosphere and environment was quite hostile. The doctors I supported loved my work and their patients came to rely on me (I was their link via phone), unfortunately coworkers and administrator thought otherwise. When a coworker was violating Hipaa and I pointed it put, I was considered not a team player and they increased their efforts to push me out.
Even though I the doctors that management didn't want me doing what I was for them and their patients, they said not to worry, I was doing a great job, keep doing what I was doing. I went to labor relations, HR, EAP, and ombudsman. Well, management did their best to show me as no conforming and during my mothers illness they came down harder. Six months after my mothers death they terminated me ... With HR in agreement. Although there was nothing derogatory in my HR file, they claimed they had a large "private" file with complaints ... A file I was never permitted to see, and HR agreed.

Helping my mother pass on and then losing my livelihood just put me over the edge. It's been 8 months and I am still devastated. How do I answer the question "why did you leave your last position?"

I have 35 years experience and I am trained for at home medical work, but I need benefits and interaction. But the 6.5 years I invested in a hostile environment took a big part of me. Many tell me I should sue, but I'm sure that would most definitely blacklist me.

[Travelinglady]

What a raw deal! It sounds like you were doing a great job--maybe to the point where you were showing other people up? There's even some research that showed that workers who didn't follow along with the basic "norms" of the other workers were tried to be brought into line by them. Sad, but true.

Probably too many workers had complained, so the company decided to just let you go to keep the peace. Yes, I think you had a right to see any files of complaints and even to have been warned that your job was at risk. What a bunch of wimpy leaders!

Hmm. As far as what to say when you were asked why you left the company? "I loved working there, but the company allowed practices that I knew were wrong, such as violating Hipaa laws. When I reported the wrongs, I became unpopular with my peers and was ultimately let go"? The danger, though, is that you don't want to come across as a bad team player. "I loved my job, but I found that it didn't meet my ultimate expectations"?

Well, I tried. Anybody else?

Originally Posted by Neversolost

How do I seek a job as an admin asst when I can't even admin my own life??

Have you considered a job doing something totally different while working on your personal issues?

That's what I did when my whole world came crashing down.

Here it is 20 years later and I am now doing something I enjoy way much more than my first career.

Maybe that would work for you too.

[Perna]

You can say you left your last job because of your mother's illness and death and how worn out you were or for personal reasons. If there were any of the doctors you remained friendly with or who you especially liked, call or write and ask if you can use them as a reference; that will "negate" anything bad HR might say about you leaving, although HR isn't allowed/doesn't generally say much by law other than to acknowledge you worked there and what dates. That your mother was so ill and subsequently died, if anyone (and you wouldn't want to work on them if it were the case) were to harp on or mention anything disagreeable you could speak of how stressed you were (implying because of your mother's illness and death rather than the office mess).

If I were you though, I'd find a non-profit/volunteer job, maybe part-time to start, and see if you can't wiggle into a paid position there after a few months or somewhere comparable after you know the agency and others in that field and are feeling better and ready for it personally?

[avlady]

I'm sorry for your predicament, it's sad bout your mother too. Maybe you could build some skills that are different by going to a 6 month college if there is one, or just 2 years. college. What do you know how to do good? you could volunteer for awhile at another job like was mentioned before, then maybe the company you work for volunteering will give you a paying job?Good Luck And I'll pray for your situation

yeah i needed to do some community service hours at the library and I asked a friend what he could do about it and so far I haven't even heard anything back from it. yeah, others help their friends get jobs or anything, but i have to do so myself. the chances of them receiving jobs are pretty high but for me it's a different story. people scrutinize my appearance to see how much potential I have and then they decide whether or not I should be considered for that role.