[EnigmaVX]

A few years back my husband lost his job of 15 years. He got a new job but it was 8 hours away. We spent a year in a long distance relationship hard not only on us but our kids as we were unsure of relocating but after he got a large promotion we made the move. I got a job with the same company. Spent the next two years working long hours and lucky to get 1 day off a week.

Recently he was forced to resign over a false harassment claim that was made by an employee facing possible termination. Long story will elaborate if asked. I have issues with how it was all handled he was never asked his side or told what he was accused of just given a choice of resign with severance or destroy your career. Things said afterward clued us into who made the accusation. I had hoped that once a regulatory agency started investigating the accuser that the company would wake up but its just made things worse.

I still work there and have to interact with the accuser and field questions from his former employees and other coworkers which is hard as I have to basically lie. The GM and others now treat me differently. I have no idea how long it will take my husband to find another job or how far away it will end up being or how long it will take for me to then find a job. Financially its hard too as we pay rent plus mortgage on a house when we originally lived.

I am basically struggling to cope.

[Travelinglady]

Hello and welcome to Psych Central! I can imagine what a tough work environment that would be. Having to try to be civil to someone who wrongly accused your husband and caused him to have to leave his job--and then to be treated differently by GM. You are amazing for being able to hang in there. Talk about stress!

I have not been in that situation, but I'm wondering if it might help just to see this job as a way of making money right now. Do what you need to do, and try (I know--easier said than done) to not think about the co-worker and how GM reacts. You can't do anything, alas, to change their thinking, anyway.

Celebrate each check in at least a small way. Imagine what good things you are accomplishing or will accomplish with that money.

Let's hope at some point soon your husband will find a good job. Ideally one in another city, so you can move on.

Of course, you can also keep your eye out for another job. At least thinking there might be another way out could be reassuring.

I hope something I have said might be helpful.

Again, welcome to Psych Central!