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Default Oct 22, 2013 at 11:24 AM
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My #1 goal is to get a full-time, permanent job. I have no idea how this will work out since no one wants to hire me even though I am a very good worker. I do not know what to put on my resume. How can I overcome the negative reviews from mean (and sick) former employers who don't want me to work? How do I overcome the never ending streak of bad luck in my life, especially the never ending bullying that I receive on the job and socially? We talked a bit about my now dead former best friend Kevin who slowly poisoned himself with junk food which led to obesity and then cancer as well as a return to alcoholism.

Frankly, it seems that I could talk to a therapist forever and make little progress. She told me to learn to appreciate the small improvements and the new points of view that therapy provides. I NEED MUCH MORE THAN THAT. If that's all they can achieve then there is no use. That is not good enough. I have major problems and am deeply troubled. The best treatment would be a full-time job. But, from the initial visit, she is already telling me that I should not expect much. That is a bad omen. I will give it a few more visits. I hope that this T will really help rather than make me hate my loser life even more. Still, I fear that is what will happen.
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Default Oct 22, 2013 at 11:34 AM
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I would suggest (as someone who has had many jobs, changing jobs is part of my way of coping, I only recently actually lost a job, got another) that you sit down and do a resume that highlights skills you have that apply to the job you are applying for, you do not have to give permission for contact with other employers (although these days it is common for them to only provide a prospective employer with your date of hire, date of leaving and no more); do have a couple of references (If someone will write them for you, include them in the resume, or end the resume with "References available upon request". Include a brief but well written cover letter specific to the job you are applying for, expressing interest, ability and confidence.
Do you know what you are looking for? Should you be looking on line vs the local paper, or would a local posting be better, ...you can't think of yourself as a loser, even if you need to think of working/interviewing/continuing to work as taking a kind of acting role---one that you "live", that you "become".
A positive, interested, but somewhat relaxed attitude seems to work well for me in interview situations.

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Default Oct 22, 2013 at 02:41 PM
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I think you need to see a recruitment expert or careers advisor rather than a T for this.
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good idea rabbit!!!!!

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Default Oct 23, 2013 at 03:28 AM
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You are on the right path for lifelong changes by seeing a therapist about the issues that lead to job difficulties. If a person could make huge improvements quickly, then that's just what a therapist would help them do. But, it takes time. Important things take time. You are important and your future is important.

I wonder, could you also seek the help of a resume writing service to help you with the resume?
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Default Oct 23, 2013 at 06:38 AM
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In addition to TR's advice, I have heard about "life coaches." An acquaintance of mine embarked on this a few years ago and she is more about the here and now, giving advice, and checking in with her clients to make sure they meet their goals. She does very practical things to help people with career goals. It is definitely more hands on than therapy.

Anyway, just another suggestion.
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Default Oct 23, 2013 at 07:08 AM
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I have talked with a career counselor. He advised taking legal action against 2 former employers. But, when I spoke with an attorney, he advised that it would not be worth it because it would be difficult to assess and collect damages. So, I am stuck in the middle. No attorney wants to take the case but I seem to need at attorney's help. I need help from a T for the c-PTSD that I developed from months and years of being bullied on the job. I have also been bullied socially. It has taken its toll. The frustration and rage inside me is awful. Sadly, there doesn't seem to be much that a T can do for any of my issues.

I have contacted a P.I. to find out what former employers are saying. If their comments are false then I might have a defamation case against them - provided an attorney would take the case.

The T seems hesitant to talk about my c-PTSD issues. Probably because they are not curable. So far, she seems to be heading into the area of sexuality. I don't want to go there because my mind is already made up. I hate being gay and don't want a lover or even casual sex. Period. Being gay does not work for me and I do not want to make further efforts to make it work; being gay does not meet my needs and never will and of that I am certain. There are physical after effects that interfere with my being sexual that MDs cannot seem to explain and that they brush off. (Yup, another problem of mine for which there seems to be no cure.) I think the after effects are from having metabolic syndrome (for which there is no cure) and metabolic syndrome is a side-effect of having been neglected and emotionally abused as a child. It's all a viscous circle of things that seem to make me a freak of nature.

I guess it's predictable what will happen. This and all efforts by therapists will fail. Yet, I need some relief and need to discuss my issues. As usual - as always - there will be no progress and it will be very frustrating.
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