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Old Apr 26, 2014, 11:25 AM
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Hello,

My name is Grace and I'm 17.

I'm currently in a full time diploma. To be honest, I don't like the diploma I had got myself into.

When I was 14, I had already made up my mind on the career path I was going to take. I play the piano and I used to compose my own music. To follow my dream, I actually decided to take music as an extra subject. I was first told by parents that they were unsupportive of my dream as becoming a pianist composer, but since I had passion for music, they allowed me to take music as a subject.

When I got in the music class, I was struggling quite badly because what the teacher taught there was way above my standard. I couldn't catch up and I was failing, but I had never thought of giving up. Not long later, my parents were informed that I wasn't coping in the music subject and encouraged me to drop music as a subject. I then persuaded my mum not to make me drop music as a subject. She then allowed me to have music lessons in school.

I continued to fail in my music subject but I was improving a lot. However, my mum was so not satisfied and she was convincing my other family members to discourage me from taking music as a subject. My other relative, who used to support me in my music career, told me to give up and stop trying.

By early 2013, my mum got me to drop the subject. I watched I worked for a year went down the drain. But I still had not give up. I was discouraged but I still had not give up. I continued to have private music lessons with piano teacher. I still want to go into the arts school.

Not only my parents disallowed me to work into the music industry, I can sense that my school teachers really dislike the choice of career I made. Since my strenghth was in maths and science, my then form tutor told me to go into school of engineering...and other stuff that I'm totally not interested in.

Earlier this year, I had got myself a full time diploma. I don't really like the diploma I have gotten into. I told my other relative that I want to be in the music industry and also a music diploma, but he said it's useless. The reason why I want to get into a music diploma is because I knew know many great pianist who I inspire to be usually attend full time music school. I lost interest in many areas of my life. Back when I was 14, I still had little passion in science( Going into the science industry was my second choice)...but I lost interest in the things I used to like. I lost a lot of passion in music and much of enthusiasm for music had gone. I'm stuck in a diploma I have no passion for and I don't know what to do next. Has anyone been through something similar before? What should I do? I feel lost...I see many of my friends chasing and working towards their dreams such as working as a cameraman in Hollywood...etc etc. I really don't know what to do...

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Old Apr 26, 2014, 11:14 PM
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is this a high school or college diploma? If your passion is music, I say give it a try!
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Old Apr 27, 2014, 12:13 AM
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Thanks for the reply, redbandit. I'm currently in a college diploma. To be honest, I lost interest in things I used to enjoy. I often have no motivation to do the things that are once important to me. I longer know what I like. I have no idea where I am heading towards to in the future. I would still want to give it a try, but it's hard when my parents and my entire family strongly disagree and has a completely different perception. I actually don't know if I still like music...

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Old Apr 29, 2014, 10:32 AM
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Hi,
One thing I know from my experience is that thing are usually not as important as we think they are. We get caught up in the emotion and it's hard to think when we are confuse by bad feeling emotions.

I suggest you to first, clear out your emotion state and try to feel better about the subject. Then start to think and write down what you realy love and what you want for your life. You will be able to share it in a better way with the ones you love after this process.

And what I find realy important is to do everyday some little actions that brings you closer to your dream. It is not the great big jump that will bring you closer, it's all the small steps that you make every single day (even hours by hours by hours).

Good luck.
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Old May 04, 2014, 09:08 AM
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Hello, Stephen Ecker .Thanks I will try.

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Old May 04, 2014, 01:39 PM
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I study psychology and almost everybody says that there aren't job opportunities on this field here and they always said me to do something else...but this is my dream. If music is your dream go on, also if somebody tries to discourage you. But if there is something else that you prefer you can change. It's important that you like your work. Good luck!
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Old May 05, 2014, 01:48 AM
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No need to feel bad Grace, you can always reinvent yourself with a second degree.

If you really want to venture into the field you love, you can try volunteering to build a job history and network. I think there's plenty of jobs in the music industry.

I used to think I was stuck in my field and spent years in fear of moving away from it. But then, once I set foot on taking classes in the field I want to get to, I realized my fear was unfounded of and I should have switched fields way earlier because I found out that I still have time!

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Old May 05, 2014, 08:13 AM
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Thanks everyone *hugs* I will grab every opportunity on the way and work hard.

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