[cherrykix]

Hello, all.

One of my new coworkers is triggering my PTSD and flashbacks. He's going overboard with flirting and trying to "woo" me, giving me a lot of presents and coming over to where my register (I'm a cashier) is, no matter how far from his area is that shift. I try to be polite and neutral but he seems to take everything I say and do as flirting with him, even though I'm not.

How do I go about rejecting his attentions without him getting upset or mad at me? I'm really scared of angering men, and just the idea of telling him nicely to back off terrifies me.

SO:

1. How do I go about rejecting him?
2. Should I tell my boss?
3. What should I do if he doesn't get the message??

[glok]

Hello, cherrykix. My thought is to tell the coworker you are there to work and have no interest in a relationship. Do not accept presents. If he does not get the message, ask your employer for help in resolving the issue. I do not see how this can be resolved without some tension. I hope your boss understands the necessity of making it clear to the coworker unwanted advances will not be tolerated.

7 Tips for Setting Boundaries At Work | World of Psychology
Being assertive: Reduce stress, communicate better - Mayo Clinic

[cherrykix]

Originally Posted by glok

Hello, cherrykix. My thought is to tell the coworker you are there to work and have no interest in a relationship. Do not accept presents. If he does not get the message, ask your employer for help in resolving the issue. I do not see how this can be resolved without some tension. I hope your boss understands the necessity of making it clear to the coworker unwanted advances will not be tolerated.

7 Tips for Setting Boundaries At Work | World of Psychology
Being assertive: Reduce stress, communicate better - Mayo Clinic

Thank you for the response . I did mention it to my boss, and she diffused the situation. I didn't want to lie about anything, so it worked out really well, and he has been staying his distance but still friendly.

Thanks again for the advice!

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