[HockingPastryChef]

Ok, lately my manger has been getting upset at small things I've done at work and I want to talk to him about that.

Plus, I want to speak to him about this situation that had happened today that I felt was not respectful.

I had made a post on how I had lost my binder which I believe was stolen. So I had asked him about putting flyers up and he was upset about me going in the ladies restroom upstairs in the students dining area. Nobody had told me that they didn't like employees going in there, only students. He told me to ask the university about putting flyers up and apparently told me to not put them up in the dining area.

So I went and talked to the student services in another building about putting flyers up, which I believe she is more the head of the university (not dining). She said I would put it up in the ladies restroom. So I had put one up in the ladies restroom and downstairs yesterday.

So, today they had found the flyer in the ladies restroom and got upset that I put that up. I did not put that I was an employee and was only asking to return it to a lost in found or security and explained what the binder had looked like. The manager had me come in when there was a manager that works elsewhere and I have noticed this manager in the past gets upset quickly, I don't have too much trust towards her and it wasn't any of her business.

My manger had said we had found this flyer in the ladies restroom and don't appreciate you asking behind our back, that is not an employees restroom. I told him that I didn't put that I was an employee on the flyer and that the lady from student services said that she would stick it up in the ladies restroom. He said that doesn't matter. So I said ok and went on to the subject that I had originally wanted to ask him that involved work.

I know I want to speak up to him because I felt so uncomfortable how he spoke to me about that when he was upset and when there were several people in the office. I feel hurt and I do understand that he doesn't like what I had did but I didn't find that to be kind.

I felt it would be best to wait it through so I would be more calm and clearly think of what to say to him. Which I am planning to start with what I had noticed and explain that I am not wanting to be trouble and am doing my best on the work I do and apologize on the unacceptable things I had done. Then explain how I didn't like what happened by saying that I felt uncomfortable with all those people and possible mention who I didn't think needed to know what had happened and tell him I would like to talk privately next time. I will then tell him about how the flyers are my last attempt at finding the binder. Then after talking about that ask him about my performance and what he sees I could improve. I of course will speak to him as briefly as possible.

Please give me your opinions and explain what you would do. Thank you!

I want to be a good employee there and want to be well respected! If this doesn't change anything then I may speak again to him or just work my best there and show that I respect myself.

[Travelinglady]

Hmm, I'm not so sure what you did was wrong. But if they have an issue with it, then you will need to keep that in mind. You didn't know how they would feel, though. Please try not to take it personally. I'm sure they would get after any other employee who posted where you did, too.

I hope your binder will show up!

[HockingPastryChef]

Originally Posted by Travelinglady

Hmm, I'm not so sure what you did was wrong. But if they have an issue with it, then you will need to keep that in mind. You didn't know how they would feel, though. Please try not to take it personally. I'm sure they would get after any other employee who posted where you did, too.

I hope your binder will show up!

Yes, I'm not taking what they had said to me personally. It's that they told others that didn't need to know about it. I felt uncomfortable when he had to speak to me with the other manager in there. I would of talked to him more if that didn't occur.

[jadzea]

I would chalk the whole thing up to experience and try to forget about it. The more you bring up your mistakes and times your boss was upset with you the more he will concentrate on your work and actions. You don't want to be under his magnifying glass. Let it go.

[HockingPastryChef]

Originally Posted by jadzea

I would chalk the whole thing up to experience and try to forget about it. The more you bring up your mistakes and times your boss was upset with you the more he will concentrate on your work and actions. You don't want to be under his magnifying glass. Let it go.

Yes, that's what I chose.