[SpicedLatte]

I started a new job three months ago and I can't keep up. They recently pulled me aside and told me so, they also said I'm not where I should be for having been there three months (I'm still doing the basics, I'm not at the advanced parts of the job yet). They said they have to see if I can make the changes or else "they'll have to figure something out". They said my skills are good and my references said how hard of a worker I am and how good of a job I do but they're not seeing it here and that they may just not be a good fit for the job.
They have been trying to help me out but I feel like I'm still not where I need to be. I feel so stupid and slow because of this. I haven't had this issues at any other job I've done, this is the first time.

The problem is I'm under a lot of stress because I have to keep this job. It's full time, we need the money, and my husband is also under a lot of stress and won't be able to deal with it if I lose my job (he may leave). He understands I'm having a hard time but he said he can't support both of us if I lose it (which isn't helping me feel any better).

What is there that I can do at this point on the job front?

[Crazy Hitch]

Hi SpicedLatte,

You are under a lot of stress, yes.

And I do understand when you say you need to keep this job.

Money, sure, I do completely understand. This makes sense.

And I do understand how your husband saying he can't support both of you adds to your stress.

I have found some articles for you on tips for managing stress in the workplace.

Please can you read some for me.

I hope that you find something that may be of use to you in your current circumstances.

Stress at Work: Tips to Reduce and Manage Job and Workplace Stress

Tips for managing stress in the workplace | JobAccess

Managing Job Stress: 10 Strategies for Coping and Thriving

Learning How to Manage Stress in the Workplace

I know that this is a very trying time for you.

Please hang in there.

[pinkflower17]

Originally Posted by SpicedLatte

I started a new job three months ago and I can't keep up. They recently pulled me aside and told me so, they also said I'm not where I should be for having been there three months (I'm still doing the basics, I'm not at the advanced parts of the job yet). They said they have to see if I can make the changes or else "they'll have to figure something out". They said my skills are good and my references said how hard of a worker I am and how good of a job I do but they're not seeing it here and that they may just not be a good fit for the job.
They have been trying to help me out but I feel like I'm still not where I need to be. I feel so stupid and slow because of this. I haven't had this issues at any other job I've done, this is the first time.

The problem is I'm under a lot of stress because I have to keep this job. It's full time, we need the money, and my husband is also under a lot of stress and won't be able to deal with it if I lose my job (he may leave). He understands I'm having a hard time but he said he can't support both of us if I lose it (which isn't helping me feel any better).

What is there that I can do at this point on the job front?

Can you try asking them if they have any recommendations on how you can get up to where you need to be? Do you have any idea what's holding you back? It sounds like you've been a great worker in the past, you can be a great worker again....

[RedDot]

Originally Posted by SpicedLatte

What is there that I can do at this point on the job front?

A few things stand out to me. At three months you are at the end of the standard 90-day probationary period. If they had given up on you, you would have probably been dismissed. Also, it doesn't sound like they have a strong intent to move in that direction or they would have presented any perceived deficiencies in writing. It sounds to me like they are reinforcing their expectations, and all you have to do is rise up to meet the challenge.

They presented it in a frightening and somewhat demotivating fashion. If you want to keep the job, you'll have to forgive them their foibles and focus on your own. The consequences are certainly weighing heavy on your mind... I struggle with this, so I can offer no sound advice in dealing with that.

I can lend my experience as an employer here in PA, and say that parting ways with any employee is a painful endeavor. I will do whatever I possibly can to avoid it, as I know if reflects poorly on me as a leader to lose anyone. If you are in an entry level position, the chances are that you're supervised by a mid level manager. They're under tremendous pressure to have their people perform, and may not have adequate training to motivate their charges. Your boss may be in a deep down panic of their own, and all they need you to do is find a way to step your game up a little.

[SpicedLatte]

Thanks for the replies! All we've done is given me a list of tasks to do, I have one task with a deadline I have to have done the same time each week (last two weeks have been successful), and have meetings to follow up.
I feel stupid and slow compared to everyone else because I can't currently keep up.
We also have an interim manager as ours is on maternity leave. My manager had never said anything to me suggesting I was a problem but she was saying at my one month that she knows I can get there. Our interim doesn't know if I can; she doesn't see it. Hence my stress, I am so scared I'll get the boot, be a failure, my husband might be out if that happens, and lack of money coming in.

I had an evaluation done at a therapy office and see a doctor in April for a psych evaluation to see what's going on (possibly ADD with Anxiety), so we'll see how I can utilize therapy to help as well.
I'm just not sure how else I can prove myself aside from trying harder.

[SpicedLatte]

They let me go today. I have no idea what to do or even say.

[RedDot]

Sorry that happened to you SpicedLatte. You should immediately file your UC claim. If it's rejected ask for a hearing. Your former employer can ask for relief from charges, but if you paid in, you will get something back. Next step is to get your resume in order and get out there looking..check out indeed or linkedin. Above all, try not to take it personal. This sounds more like you got caught up in a failure in leadership and a poor on-boarding process than anything else.

[SpicedLatte]

Originally Posted by RedDot

Sorry that happened to you SpicedLatte. You should immediately file your UC claim. If it's rejected ask for a hearing. Your former employer can ask for relief from charges, but if you paid in, you will get something back. Next step is to get your resume in order and get out there looking..check out indeed or linkedin. Above all, try not to take it personal. This sounds more like you got caught up in a failure in leadership and a poor on-boarding process than anything else.

Already done, they told me that they saw that I was trying and committed but I wasn't a good fit for them and they had to let me go. This is the first time this has happened with a job for me. I feel like a failure and am so scared of how long it'll take to find something else.

[RedDot]

They may not have been a good fit for you either. Your feelings are perfectly normal for what just happened.