[amandastar92]

To start off with, I am 23 year old single female. Ever since I was in middle school, I've had fantasies of having sexual relations with adult men. It turned from fantasizing about teachers, to professors when I entered college, to supervisors when I entered the work force. It really bothers me because it clouds my ability to focus on my tasks. For example, if they're talking to me, I can't listen well because I am too busy thinking about them in a sexual manner. Why do you think I have this, is this normal? What do I do to stop it?

[JustJenny]

Do you feel anything else for them than mere physical attraction?

I used to have crushes on younger professors and supervisors - they looked so smart.

[Rose76]

I don't think it's all that abnormal, but it has the potential to cause you trouble.

I suspect you don't have enough relationships in your life. So you are fixating on these men that you are around on a daily basis. You need to get out of your head and start living in the world around you.

One of these days, one of these males you fantasize about is going to notice your interest and try to connect with you in a way that is just going to end up being hurtful to you. I speak from personal experience.

Here is what I would tell myself if I were in your shoes:

Geez, Onward, get over yourself. Of all of the millions of men out there, these are NOT the ones to focus on."

I mean, I would literally say that to myself because that is just how I personally think - not that I think you need to get over yourself.

Do you think your feelings of desire toward male authority figures stem from your relationship (or non-relationship) with your father? I don't presume that that is the case, and I don't need you to respond - just a rhetorical question that may help you come up with the "why." Knowing the why can put the whole thing in perspective and not have it be an issue. Life is hard enough without inviting difficulties into the workplace by allowing inappropriate relations. Be kind to yourself and just don't go there.

BTW, it is totally normal to feel attraction to others we work with/for. We are human, after all. The key is to be able to not let it interfere with work.

As long as you don't act on it you will do fine. If you have to have them email you or call you so you don't have to view their physical form. That should help some with the fantasizing. We all outgrow it in time. blessings