[MikeDelta]

Hey all,

So anyone here work in Emergency services?

I am a EMT in a larger City. While I love my job, it is my first ems job and i have really been struggling learning. My partner and I do not see eye to eye. My partner did not want a rookie and ive been struggling to learn but also please them and do well at my job. They constantly throw me under the bus infront of patients and yell at me for newbie mistakes. On top of this ive been struggling with my own mental problems and depression unannounced to them (I recently spent a week inpatient for psych problems). Its so bad that i dread work when i normally love going.

Any help or advice? I am debating about seeing if can switch to another shift with another partner. I feel like i should maybe confront my partner but that would make an even bigger s show.

Thanks,

[deafgirl92]

I do not work in Emergency Services but you shouldnt have to deal with that regardless. I do think that you should do something about it. If you are concerned that confronting your partner will make it worse then I would ask to change partners. No one deserves that at all.

[MikeDelta]

Originally Posted by deafgirl92

I do not work in Emergency Services but you shouldnt have to deal with that regardless. I do think that you should do something about it. If you are concerned that confronting your partner will make it worse then I would ask to change partners. No one deserves that at all.

I think you're right but i also think part of the problem is me going through a lot right now. My partner doesnt know anything so how can i blame them for getting upset with me?

[dancinglady]

Originally Posted by MikeDelta

I think you're right but i also think part of the problem is me going through a lot right now. My partner doesnt know anything so how can i blame them for getting upset with me?

I worked in an ER for 8 years. Honey everyone I worked with had a mental health disorder of some kind. No one talked about it but it was pretty obvious. I think you have to be a little crazy to even want to work in this field. We have so much to deal and process in 8 hour shifts. The teasing and the calling you out for mistakes is childish but I think they think it is a brotherhood and your the new little brother. Stick it out. Give back what you are given and blow it off. If they see it gets to you they will probably do it more. On top of that if you complain to supervisors there will be hell to pay. They are just trying to bring you into the group and they like you do this is the way they show it. I know this sounds ridiculous but I saw it over and over again. The newbie just gets pick on it is like being in a fraternity and this is your first years as a newbie. Good luck and thanks for your service to all of the patients you deal with every shift. You can bring a lot to the table when you are dealing with mental health crisis you know what the patient might be going through and you can be more empathetic. You will get some good laughs in this job wait until you see what you have to deal with in some calls. Dont get me started about the docs nurses and medical staff and their affairs etc.

[Jan1212]

Some coworkers are craaaazzyyyy extremely unprofessional. But you learn and move on. To a better workplace. With some more crazy coworkers. But a little less immature. Then you move up. Ugh the suffering burns you out

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[Woodchuck]

I work in veterinary ER and I work the overnight shift. I find the people who choose to work that shift are a lot less a n a l and more accepting of quirks. Don't know if that works with your brain chemistry but I am pretty sure I wouldn't be able to stay employed if I didn't work overnights.

[rechu]

I haven't worked in that field, but I know several people that do, and from what I hear it can be very stressful. It wouldn't surprise me that it could be a trigger for your depression. Conflict with your co-worker is probably only making it worse.

I would say to focus on self care, do some things to relieve stress, yoga, meditation, walking in nature, exercise, etc. Are you seeing a doctor/therapist for the depression right now?

Dancinglady had an interesting point about how they may in part be treating you that way because you're the new guy. If that's the case, hopefully it will get better with time. Also, it sounds like you are still learning. As you become more familiar and comfortable with what you are doing, I am sure you will make fewer mistakes they can criticize.

[Misssy2]

Originally Posted by MikeDelta

Hey all,

So anyone here work in Emergency services?

I am a EMT in a larger City. While I love my job, it is my first ems job and i have really been struggling learning. My partner and I do not see eye to eye. My partner did not want a rookie and ive been struggling to learn but also please them and do well at my job. They constantly throw me under the bus infront of patients and yell at me for newbie mistakes. On top of this ive been struggling with my own mental problems and depression unannounced to them (I recently spent a week inpatient for psych problems). Its so bad that i dread work when i normally love going.

Any help or advice? I am debating about seeing if can switch to another shift with another partner. I feel like i should maybe confront my partner but that would make an even bigger s show.

Thanks,

I would talk to my hiring manager and explain that this position or partner is not a good "fit" for me. I would explain my concerns (write them down)...be careful not to blame everything on your partner but look deep into yourself as to why this is not a good "fit". Ask for other opportunities and advice on how to handle the current situation. Explain you do think this profession is in your best interest and in the best interest of the people that you are helping.

But, that you feel the "fit" with your partner is going to be your downfall.

[Calico_91]

Originally Posted by MikeDelta

Hey all,

So anyone here work in Emergency services?

I am a EMT in a larger City. While I love my job, it is my first ems job and i have really been struggling learning. My partner and I do not see eye to eye. My partner did not want a rookie and ive been struggling to learn but also please them and do well at my job. They constantly throw me under the bus infront of patients and yell at me for newbie mistakes. On top of this ive been struggling with my own mental problems and depression unannounced to them (I recently spent a week inpatient for psych problems). Its so bad that i dread work when i normally love going.

Any help or advice? I am debating about seeing if can switch to another shift with another partner. I feel like i should maybe confront my partner but that would make an even bigger s show.

Thanks,

I would request a different trainer. You should not have to put up with that. You can even say that you want to learn, but you guys don't have the same learning patterns. Nothing wrong with asking for another partner.

Completely agree with dancinglady. I did a similar job for many years. You don't say how long this has been happening to you. Like she said, give it at least a year. Everyone else has their own MI too. Most people I knew/ worked with had something wrong with them. Either the job caused it or they had their own baggage and hoped work could make it better, or both. You're doing a great job. You will soon look back at this with relief, when it all falls into place. Hang in there. FWIW a compromise could be to ask for a mentor in another department or some sort of pastoral support. That way you get help without confrontation. Good luck!