[bellakitten]

Hello,

I would like to describe to you how I have been feeling lately and am interested to hear your thoughts and advice about how I could best deal with these emotions and feelings in a positive and constructive way.

I am constantly dreaming of and imagining myself being somewhere else and living a different life, yet I feel almost powerless to change my current situation and not in control of my life. My job as an administrative assistant is unfulfilling and boring, yet I am paid well and am too scared to quit my job and find another, because I keep thinking, "what if the next job I choose is even worse?" I do feel like I need to change my job, but I just don't know where to begin and am fearful of not finding something any better, with my limited skills.

I am also always thinking that the grass must be greener on the other side, yet I understand that nobody's life is perfect and there are always challenges. I follow a lot of travel bloggers on social media and can't help but wish for their life of constant travel and exploring.

I feel completely unmotivated and stuck in my current life and routine and sometimes find it difficult to get out of bed in the morning and go to work, in addition to actually working, finishing projects and setting goals for myself.

I have trouble finding joy and happiness in the mundane and routine aspects of life. My daily life feels so monotonous and every day blends together.

Do you have any advice for how to deal with these feelings that I have been experiencing? I would greatly appreciate any tips that you can provide to me!

[Little Lulu]

Here is a link to a good, brief TED talk on finding your life/job purpose. I found it very helpful and go back to it occasionally when I feel like you are feeling now. Hope it helps.

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=...24272578,d.eWE

What are the things that you imagine yourself doing instead? Start there. Also, you said this: "what if the next job I choose is even worse?" This really struck a chord with me, because I feel the same way about stuff sometimes, especially about change and when I'm scared and feel stuck. It's a thought that keeps me stuck. What if the next job you choose is 100x better than where you are now? And, what if it did suck? What if your new situation was worse? I think it's a valid worry and question. No one wants to be stuck at a crappy or abusive or just boring job. Or make less money, Or trade their old job in for a new job that may not be secure and enjoyable. I'm not sure where you are with your finances, but maybe you could stay where you are now, in case finances are an issue, AND work towards your dream job. In the meantime, find new ways to think about things. Write a list of things you are grateful for everyday. Notice sunsets. Or kind gestures. Make kind gestures. Smile. I wish you happiness and new experiences. Sometimes slow change is good, and maybe you need to get your toes wet before you jump. Research the kind of jobs you want. What does it take and what do you have to do to get there? Good luck!

[TheBoyIsNoone]

I cannot offer any advice. I just want to say I understand. I feel quite similar although in additton to being unrewarding it is extremely stressful. I wish someone would tell me "just quit, you will be OK". I even announced to my wife that I'm thinking about quitting - that did not went well... So here I am dreading going to work in the morning, for years now.