[leomama]

Not receiving credit for things I did do.

I have one supervisor who has been consistently assigning blame to me for 3 months. I talked to my manager about it after the first incident and it hasn't stopped. This supervisor is very loud and dominant in our workplace . Some of the other supervisors are critical of her but she continues to treat me unfairly.

Some nights I work with a high school student and I'm held accountable for his performance even though I'm not allowed to tell him what to do.

I could ask to transfer to a different store but then I'd have to change my schedule.

I'm hoping to change my internal reaction so this supervisor can't hurt me anymore. She's friends with a couple of my coworkers so that results in a very unfriendly work atmosphere for me at times. I can't change how she talks to me or treats me but I can change how it affects me.

[seesaw]

I agree, changing your reaction to her behavior will help you the most. But I would make sure you stand up for yourself. If you have to manage this high school co-worker but can't direct his work, you need to stand up for yourself that being held accountable for that is not fair, since you have no authority to manage him.

Try Googling the phrase "managing up" or "dealing with difficult bosses" to get some ideas on how to handle this supervisor.

Good luck,
Seesaw

That sounds awkward, especially with the cliquey-ness which is very hard to get around.

I think in situations like these the best you can do is address the important stuff like being blamed for your co-worker's performance, and let a lot of the lesser important stuff go best you can.

If she holds you accountable for his performance then I would calmly respond "Sorry I did not realise I was responsible for my co-worker's performance, could you please help me understand my responsibilities as I am unsure what authority I have over him?"

She will then either have to admit you have no authority or if you do have authority she will have to detail it for you.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by seesaw

I agree, changing your reaction to her behavior will help you the most. But I would make sure you stand up for yourself. If you have to manage this high school co-worker but can't direct his work, you need to stand up for yourself that being held accountable for that is not fair, since you have no authority to manage him.

Try Googling the phrase "managing up" or "dealing with difficult bosses" to get some ideas on how to handle this supervisor.

Good luck,
Seesaw

He's my peer not my underline so I can't manage him, and I'm being blamed for his oversight. I'll look up the term!

[leomama]

Originally Posted by prefabsprout

That sounds awkward, especially with the cliquey-ness which is very hard to get around.


I think in situations like these the best you can do is address the important stuff like being blamed for your co-worker's performance, and let a lot of the lesser important stuff go best you can.


If she holds you accountable for his performance then I would calmly respond "Sorry I did not realise I was responsible for my co-worker's performance, could you please help me understand my responsibilities as I am unsure what authority I have over him?"


She will then either have to admit you have no authority or if you do have authority she will have to detail it for you.

I've tried this, she has been condescending to me from the get go. I have another coworker who's an associate SM in a licensed store so my sup thinks I'm the one making the mistakes when it's the other woman.