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Feb 13, 2018, 05:40 PM
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I just started a new part time job last week and am already worried I will get fired. I feel like I'm in over my head. They are asking me to do things I've never really done before except for maybe once or not at all, and I am so scared of failure.
I don't know what to do..... |
 Anonymous57777, Anonymous87914, hvert, qwerty68, zoloft haver
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Feb 13, 2018, 05:54 PM
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Just keep doing what you’re doing and ask questions if you’re not sure. |
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Feb 13, 2018, 05:59 PM
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Feb 13, 2018, 06:01 PM
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Ok I understand |
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Feb 13, 2018, 06:29 PM
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I think there are ways to ask questions that don't make it seem like you don't know what you're doing. And also, you can sometimes say, this format/style/content is new to me, do you have an example? For example, my big client just asked me to write a rough draft of a medical study review for a journal. We went over all the points she wants me to sort out in the rough draft. And I said point blank, I feel confident I can do this, but I have never actually written this before, so do you have a sample that I can use as a guide? And she was like absolutely. She believes in my work abilities and talent, and appreciates that I want to give her what she wants.
The other thing you can do is research the question you have, then clarify with your boss. Approach them and say "so, I think this is a good way to handle this task, is there anything I'm missing or that you would like me to include?" Often it's not about showing you don't know the answer, but making sure you understand everything they want delivered. It's okay to not know things and ask for help. In any job or situation. They would much rather you get clarification then waste time trying to figure it out. Asking for help and clarification is proactive. Seesaw
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 What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
| mrsselig, Trippin2.0
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Feb 13, 2018, 06:38 PM
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If you were honest about your skill set when you interviewed for the job, you shouldn't be ashamed to ask questions. Every company is different, I for one would rather have my employee ask questions and teach them how to do their job correctly rather than have them hide their problems and do everything wrong.
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Feb 13, 2018, 06:57 PM
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What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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Feb 13, 2018, 11:05 PM
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I don’t see an issue with asking questions.
Honestly even if you (hypothetically) don’t know what you are doing, it’s still better to ask than not to ask and mess things up (unless of course you can figure things out without asking). It also depends what kind of things you don’t know. Are they in your job description? Are they skills related or procedures related? Like a math teacher doesn’t know math (ouch) or a math teacher doesn’t know when something is due at a new school or doesn’t know who has the key to a supply closet (perfectly fine). I assume your degree (or other training), resume and questions on the interview already revealed your skills. I assume you were truthful. They wouldn’t hire you if you had no skills. So if these are procedural questions, then it’s only normal for new employees not to know stuff. So it’s perfectly ok to ask. |
| Trippin2.0
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Feb 14, 2018, 06:23 AM
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Thank you all.
 Well, so the truth is, I told them I have two plus years of ecommerce experience in the interview, which I do. Thing is, that that experience didn't amount to me learning a whole lot about how ecommerce works... but that wasn't the focus of the conversations.. my general knowledge and other experience was. One of the tasks they're asking me to do is not in the job description, but I said I could do it when he asked. It is copywriting for a website, and I do have some amount of copywriting experience, just not in this way. The other task is a more typical like task for my field that I've never done before. I will think about what questions I can ask that don't make it seem like I don't know what I am doing. Seesaw, those are some great suggestions, thanks! I will do just that. |
| Anonymous87914
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Feb 14, 2018, 08:27 AM
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I think I might sign up for an expert-led course to help me feel more confident in my role/jobs and to tackle this head on.
It may be the only (one) way for me to truly be successful. I have tried to do it all on my own, but in my field, you really need a success blueprint and step-by-step instructions, which this course would provide. Otherwise, you're left on your own to figure it all out based on conflicting info and guidance.. or vague guidance. I think this may be the best solution for me right now. I need more confidence, and I need a blueprint. I have so much that I don't really know how EXACTLY to do it. |
| Anonymous87914, mrsselig
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| mrsselig
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Feb 14, 2018, 10:42 AM
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Seesaw
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What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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Feb 14, 2018, 10:49 AM
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In my field, it's constantly changing and the tactics therefore constantly must change. So it's SO hard to keep up all the time. I need updated tactics.. I read about them online, but it's not the same as an expert-level course. I think I will sign up! It's $100/month for 12 months that you pay off for a five-week course. I feel a little better already. This is a smart decision. I will be successful if I take this course... |
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Feb 14, 2018, 11:03 AM
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What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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Feb 14, 2018, 11:09 AM
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Feb 14, 2018, 11:39 AM
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Omg... I am SO tickled right now. This MAJOR industry expert in my field just personally answered my questions about his course on email.... I LOVE this man/guru. He is absolutely amazing!!!!!! I don't know why, but having even just minor contact with him is like touching a movie star, LOL.
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Feb 14, 2018, 02:11 PM
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What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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Feb 14, 2018, 05:09 PM
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Yes, it sure is awesome!!
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Feb 14, 2018, 05:42 PM
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I'm 3 weeks into a new job and know just how you feel. I think your idea of being proactive is a good one. The fear is the worst for me. My natural response is to cower and hide - which is not especially helpful! I think ACTION of any kind is an emotional anecdote, in addition to bringing tangible resources.
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Feb 14, 2018, 05:50 PM
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Feb 15, 2018, 09:49 AM
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I have the same issue too. I just accepted a full time job. I have to pass 3 months probation period.
This new job cause a great deal of anxiety for me |
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