Short background.. used to work with an abusive boss. Finally got rid of him. At one point I was still working with him and he couldn't control his abuse of me. He always was looking for errors. The last time we had a conversation he was trying to say I didn't do something, when I provided him with info that I did, it didn't matter he just kept saying it

I asked my bosses for a divorce from him. They complied and got someone else to work with him. I have been cut off from the abuser for years now. When the abuser is in the building I do not leave my office to avoid running into him. I got to lunch at 11 am to avoid running into him.

So my new boss told me that HE suggested to him that he go to some event during our emergency period and that the abusive boss would cover for him. That means I should have to work with the abusive boss.

I literally felt like I was developing a twitch at that.. like I wanted to kill myself to get out of it.. like I was just SOOOOO tried of dealing with it and I would prefer to quit my job and buy a 20,000 house in detroit michigan and never come back.

So am not sure how to proceed. I feel like I need to ask my boss NOT to do that. But I resent that I have to. But at the same time I know if I don't say something and have to work with the abuser I will resent my new boss.

I am so distraught I can hardly concentrate on my life.

Become Heath and safety officer, it's easy to get into and you become untouchable. He has authority only because of your paycheck.

Don't waste your time trying to figure him out, because chances are he used to be in the same predicament.

He could possibly be jealous of you. Have a break, sure. But don't give up.

Bite back but always try and work things out. Only you know him best.

[Candy1955]

Take vacation

Originally Posted by Candy1955

Take vacation

Actually when I am on my emergency period.. when this will occur.. I cannot. I am expected to be at work.

So, is it me... or does this seem like it is a purposeful thing the abuser is doing to FORCE me to work for him where he will be a pain the rump and abusive?

[le toad]

I used to work in very dysfunctional environments. The medical field, is just as bad as yours if not worse.

And yes, your boss is manipulating the situation. For them, it's their weird way of saying: "Look, i make people work together"..

Most bosses don't see their subordinates as co-workers. They see them as children. Work, to them is like a darn playground or a big sandbox. And they believe they're "being adult" about the situation" by making you two "play nice"..

I basically had to seek legal help to stop this time of behavior.

I had a coworker who was physically violent with us. Yes, physically. Everyone was afraid of him. HR knew all about him.

The radiologists whom we all worked for? Thought this guy (an x-ray tech) physically hitting people, throwing the phone, yelling and screaming was quite entertaining.

Well, i started working on his shift, and i literally had him run up behind me, so i walked into a bathroom and locked the door. It wasn't for my safety - it was for his.

The supervisor was the same culture as the nut-job, so there was no way they were going to "let him go" or even punish him..

I had to go to a lawyer and have a cease and desist letter written to the CEO of the hospital as well as to HR.

The reason why they freaked out? They did not believe a lowly x-ray tech could afford to sue a hospital for physical abuse by a fellow employee.

HR called the supervisor who was protecting the nut-job on the carpet. The radiologists were even afraid they might have gotten involved, and put distance between both the supervisor and the nut job.

After that letter was written and sent down from the CEO? All hell broke loose. An investigation was commenced, and every one spent several weeks, covering their butts and pointing fingers..

Scared the nut job so badly, he apologized via a co worker who was playing both side of the fence between us. He quit the job, and left to go work for another relative.

Originally Posted by le toad

Scared the nut job so badly, he apologized via a co worker who was playing both side of the fence between us. He quit the job, and left to go work for another relative.

I would have to go very far to get rid of my nut job. Recently a similar nut job was busted because his abuser just happens to work at a major newspaper. She busted him... and my organization had to "pretend" like they were going to do something about it.

HA. They set up a joke committee to address abuses.

I knew it was a joke when the only way you could contact them was via a portal on the website -- err sure.. I am sure that is anonymous.

After all that, do you know what their decision was? That we, the employees... not the abusers, had to go to sexual harassment training. WHAT A JOKE.

Since this happened I learned that almost everyone in the building is going to this event that my new boss is going to so it does seem like a legitimate thing. I have asked my bosses to find someone else to cover that day. I will take a day off so it isn't so embarrassing. Maybe people can speculate I had a doctors appointment.

I work in health care also and I can definitely relate to all the abusive stories here. I hate it it. I’m pretty sure even if I changed jobs it would be the same crap.

I think I would say something to my current boss about this situation with the abusive old boss stepping in. I would make them aware of the problems because if they do force you to work with the abuser, you already know how the jerk is going to act. I do a ton of CYA at my job which means I stay very vocal in a polite and professional but insistent way.

[Mike_J]

Let me know if you want a roommate in your shack in the woods. I'm thinking of moving out west into the Rockies and just disappear.