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Default Dec 05, 2020 at 08:04 AM
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Gosh, this is a tough one. You are definitely being sexually harassed. You don’t want to lose the job. If you confront her, she will most likely get mad and you will likely lose the job.

I recommend avoiding her advances. When she makes a sexual comment, give her a look of displeasure and dismiss it. When she touches you, react by moving your body out of her clutches and expressing with your face displeasure and dismiss it. Hopefully, she’ll get the hint.

If she escalates it after that, then I guess the next course of action is to ask her to stop. I hope she isn’t aggressive and vindictive. I’m sorry you are having to deal with this.

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Default Dec 05, 2020 at 10:15 AM
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Gosh, this is a tough one. You are definitely being sexually harassed. You don’t want to lose the job. If you confront her, she will most likely get mad and you will likely lose the job.

I recommend avoiding her advances. When she makes a sexual comment, give her a look of displeasure and dismiss it. When she touches you, react by moving your body out of her clutches and expressing with your face displeasure and dismiss it. Hopefully, she’ll get the hint.

If she escalates it after that, then I guess the next course of action is to ask her to stop. I hope she isn’t aggressive and vindictive. I’m sorry you are having to deal with this.
If he was a woman and a boss was a man and kept inappropriately touching her, would you suggest she just ignores and simply shows displeasure and just moves her body away from him by giving hints that she doesn’t like it?

That’s how many women were molested in work places for decades because they were told to keep it quiet. Why is it different with a man?

It’s traumatizing. He shouldn’t continue being traumatized. Of course there is a risk of being fired but that’s how these abusers keep their victims in check, keep them silent
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If he was a woman and a boss was a man and kept inappropriately touching her, would you suggest she just ignores and simply shows displeasure and just moves her body away from him by giving hints that she doesn’t like it?

That’s how many women were molested in work places for decades because they were told to keep it quiet. Why is it different with a man?

It’s traumatizing. He shouldn’t continue being traumatized. Of course there is a risk of being fired but that’s how these abusers keep their victims in check, keep them silent
It’s inappropriate to argue on other’s threads. No comment.

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It’s inappropriate to argue on other’s threads. No comment.
I didn’t see anyone arguing? Not sure what you mean. I agree arguing it’s not appropriate. I personally just asked a question. It’s ok not to respond of course. Have a great night
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Default Dec 05, 2020 at 11:32 PM
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Chevelle, let us know how things go next time you work snd what course of action you think of taking. I am very sorry you are in such a terrible situation. Sadly it’s not uncommon in a work place.
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I think she is being playful, and has a crazy personality. It depends on how you feel about it personally though. You may need to tell her to stop. Or complain if it really troubles you. I wish all bosses were like that, honestly speaking. Most bosses tend to be very serious, but yours is a joker.
Inappropriate touching and comments is not a "joker". Its sexual harassment.

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I dont see an argument here.....

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Default Dec 14, 2020 at 10:50 AM
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I don't think she's just friendly with you.
I think she likes you and she is courting you.
If you like it, okay, but if you don't like it, then tell her to stop doing it. She has no right to touch you without your permission, even if she is your boss.
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I don't know if it's harassment, her being friendly or she's wanting something more and I'm very confused about it and haven't laid a finger on her.
I work in a warehouse with her and she's recently divorced and in her late 40's and very flirtatious with me and has been a supervisor over 20 years.

I'm male and in my ninth week at a new job in a warehouse and within the first week my female boss and i started talking about how we both use to work at the same company at different times and how working at this new company was a refreshing and relaxed change and while we were talking, she started rubbing the middle of my back straight up and down with her hand and that's the day that it started.

After that she has come up from behind me 3 different times and put both her hands around my neck for making a data entry mistake, patted me on the back as she walked by me, and started bumping her hand on my thigh to talk to me.

She's asked me to dance with her in the warehouse in front of coworkers and even asked if i was going to whip her one day when my belt broke loose while putting boxes on a skid for inventory.

When i was putting boxes on a skid one day the bottom of a box broke open letting glass bottles break on the floor and when she seen it, she told me to come over to her and she playfully slapped me.

This last time i was bubble wrapping glass bottles for protection for shipping and i had a large roll of bubble wrap at my feet on the floor i was using and she came over to help on the other side of the roller conveyor and looked at me and said gimme some, so when i started to bend down to get her the bubble wrap, she said to me, If you think i'm going anywhere near down there to get the bubble wrap from you, your crazy, well, i didn't say anything to her but, just looked at her confused and was saying to myself, i wasn't expecting you to go down at my feet to get the bubble wrap but, i felt she was implying something else, maybe I'm wrong.
That is sexual harassment. Start gathering evidence. Ask those who has witness it to come forward. Get a lawyer and find out your right and she after looking for a new job.
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I’ve seen this before and then the women gets pissed and flips the story around so it looks like you are the one doing these things to her.

If it was me personally I’d immediately find a new job.

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