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Old 02-18-2021, 02:51 PM   #31
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I'm having a complete emotional breakdown. I left work early for "personal reasons". I could care less given the stress they've put me through already. It's stress overload, and I'm melting down, bursting into tears within the first two weeks. I want to leave.
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Is it this woman again? It’s ok to take time off. Hope you’ll feel better tomorrow. Are you able to start therapy again soon? That would be really helpful to run work situations by the therapist.
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Is it this woman again? It’s ok to take time off. Hope you’ll feel better tomorrow. Are you able to start therapy again soon? That would be really helpful to run work situations by the therapist.
It's everything combined.... I've reached a breaking point and I've reached my limit. I have an emergency session with my therapist today.
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It's everything combined.... I've reached a breaking point and I've reached my limit. I have an emergency session with my therapist today.
Oh great that you get to see a therapist. Sorry you are having hard time
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Oh great that you get to see a therapist. Sorry you are having hard time
Thanks @divine1966.

It helped to talk to my therapist last night. And at least I was able to sleep better last night with a bump in my sleep medication.
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What has happened with that woman now has not only tainted my first days at work to be very negative and contentious, but because of her extremely harsh, corrective and punitive tone with me on the phone earlier this week, I now am questioning every little thing I do and am worrying that I have the wrong approach!!!! She shook my confidence level, when I had begun with 100% confidence in myself. I am sure that was her GOAL!!!!!!!!!! I am SO ANGRY.
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Don't give her that much power. You were able to voice the situation with the boss and your concerns were heard and documented. At that point, the decisions are in management's hands. Sometimes you just have to let it go and move on to the next project in the business world.

Collaborative work situations are great when all parties are truly communicating and working together; they can be stressful when someone tries to dominate and overstep their role in that collaboration. In the end, you get the project done, and you move on to the next one, making note of the issues that did arise so down the road you will know to find a way to proactively circumvent those same issues.

Some people are just really difficult to work with, but remember that is THEIR personality and THEIR inability to work respectfully and collaboratively, not yours. The failing is hers. She'll never see it or admit it, and let go of any idea that you'll ever get her to do so; she's not worth that emotional energy. It is very likely the higher ups are well aware of this person's insufficiencies and just aren't sharing that information with you.

As are as it is, let that go, and move forward. You don't have to let it eat you up inside.
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Thank you very much @ArtleyWilkins. I appreciate your support!

I want to quit already. I am considering leaving on Monday and giving my notice. I've had it. My morale is already very low, it's an insane work environment, and I absolutely hate it.
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I informed my boss that I am about to leave. He talked me off the ledge for now, but already they've already also changed my boss and group on me too. I am seriously considering quitting.
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Can you afford to quit? Without having something lined up? You mentioned you think you are going back to your ex. But you shared he is severely abusive including financial abuse. He couldn’t be relied on financially before, is he doing to support you now? Would you want to financially depend on abuser? You’d not get unemployment if you quit. Be careful just quitting like this. I’d not make impulsive decisions. I do get stressful job situation, it could be very tough
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