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Default Mar 31, 2021 at 11:19 PM
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I spend most of my time on Daily Check Ins and I have talked about my job situation on there quite a bit lately. I just thought that I should post a new thread in the Work & Careers forum this time.

There had been so much ups and downs emotionally about what's going to happen at work. Lots of times there had been some talk that all of us working at the site will have to leave in a few months. And now today, I went to one guy at work and he told me that he heard that I am going to stay on because, even though others are leaving, some are going to stay including me. I had planned on leaving all along and then retire, either for just a little while or for good. Now I'm confused.

Lately, I have not been happy at where I work. So I was looking forward to the exit. But now that one guy told me that I'm going to stay and as others leave, new people will come in. I feel like I have very mixed feelings about this. For now I have not been happy because it's been very slow. But now it's going to pick up, which it seems like that's good news. But there are some conditions right now going for me that I would like to see change. I have wanted to have some changes as of now, but been denied. Maybe there will be a chance that the conditions can change for me since it's going to pick up but I don't know.

The biggest change I want to see is how the mail is delivered at where I work. It doesn't come to me directly, it first goes to the front lobby where the security guards are. I am not in favor of it because they paw through the mail and also some days the mail doesn't get delivered because they are not at the lobby when the mailman comes. I had made an appeal about it, but no dice.

I am thinking of speaking to the Facility Manager at my place about all of this. I wanted to before but didn't because I figured that it's going to be over and I didn't want to bother him. I feel like if I don't get my way in this, then I would want to leave. First of all, I had wanted to leave the area where I live at all along for quite a while and had another place where I'd like to live in my mind. I kind of feel like I may be making a big deal about a trivial thing when it comes to the mail, but it really means a lot to me. So I'll see what's going to happen. I hope that I don't make a decision that I will regret later on.
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Lately, I have not been happy at where I work.....

The biggest change I want to see is how the mail is delivered at where I work. It doesn't come to me directly, it first goes to the front lobby where the security guards are. I am not in favor of it because they paw through the mail and also some days the mail doesn't get delivered because they are not at the lobby when the mailman comes. I had made an appeal about it, but no dice.

I am thinking of speaking to the Facility Manager at my place about all of this. I wanted to before but didn't because I figured that it's going to be over and I didn't want to bother him. I feel like if I don't get my way in this, then I would want to leave. First of all, I had wanted to leave the area where I live at all along for quite a while and had another place where I'd like to live in my mind. I kind of feel like I may be making a big deal about a trivial thing when it comes to the mail, but it really means a lot to me. So I'll see what's going to happen. I hope that I don't make a decision that I will regret later on.
One of the hardest things about work is all the changes--especially knowing that change is coming but not knowing how it will effect you. And many corporations today lay people off constantly. Yes it is so much better when we can know up front that we will be effected rather than sit there wondering--will it be me? Then there are companies and organizations where a new CEO, superintendent, etc come in and make what seem like unnecessary changes that cause a lot of paperwork but don't seem to create much value for the customer/student/etc.

IMO that you want the mail to be delivered more efficiently shows you care--good employees care, but also have to be careful to keep a bit of distance emotionally. I have had trouble with this at times in certain places I have worked. I think it happened because of my anxiety disorder. Given that your suggestion about the mail seems helpful to the company, it seems like a good idea to talk to the Facility Manager. Perhaps they might even agree with you! If not then, it is just not meant to be and after expressing your POV, try to not to think about the company's mail policies or think of it as any problems the mail causes are not your fault--it is on them! Also, since you are not happy with your job, it would be a good idea to look for another. IMO, it can be good to periodically look at what jobs are out there. IMO, perhaps all this stimulus money might create some additional job opportunities for some people.
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Default Apr 01, 2021 at 07:07 AM
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What are the reasons not to retire now and/or move to the place you want to live? What is it about this job that keeps you there?
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Hi, @will19, I was thinking, maybe stay on the job to see what the new people are like & how things are run? What if the new atmosphere turns out to be just what you've needed & you end up looking forward to going to work each day? If you don't like it, you can then retire, or like TunedOut says, maybe look for a different job? I hope everything works out perfect for you. You deserve that. You are obviously well respected at your job, & you are very thoughtful & conscientious.

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A special thanks to all three (so far) who have replied - Turned Out, Hvert, and Breaking Dawn. Your replies to me have been very helpful and made me feel better reading them. I'd love to answer back on the replies.

First of, it's about the mail. I'm not satisfied with the set up for that, as I had stated. I feel like I'm making a bigger deal of it than for what it is. I think it's like an obsession I have - that I need total control. After all it makes sense since it's my job and no one else's; and I'm fully responsible for what happens. If something goes wrong with the way it is now, then it wouldn't be my fault. But still I would be very upset because I don't like having to answer to a foul-up of what someone else did, especially when it went the way I didn't want it to go. I plan to have a talk with the Facility Manager about this, but he's been very busy, plus he may be leaving the site pretty soon. He may not help by himself, but he may give me some pointers.

I forgot to mention that the Maintenance man is leaving for good (retiring) later this month. I had been filling in for him some days when he didn't show up. Last week he and I had a phone conversation with our managers and it was all about him retiring. Not a word was said about me taking his place full-time. Yesterday I overheard him tell other people that he's retiring and I will take his place. I was livid when I heard that. I can't, for the life of me, do his job and I'd rather not have the responsibility.

I would like to leave my job with the way it's going, but the unknown if I leave is pretty scary. I tend to want to stay with something that's secure, even if it's not that great. There had been times in my life when I left something that was secure and others were against my move. But I always made out alright in the past and never regretted the decisions I made.

I guess that I may sound a bit anxious and I hope I'm not coming across as gruff and I want to make some sense. It's kind of a trying time for me now, plus I'm very tired as I'm writing all of this out.
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It is really draining to work at a place going through that kind of upheaval, even if the new management turns out to be a positive change.

I read a career book recently that had an eye opening exercise. I am forgetting the details but it was basically like this: Draw out a map of all your jobs (or make a list). Look at each one and think about why you took that job. Money? Convenience? Passion? Friends who worked there? I was shocked at how many of my job decisions have been made based on proximity or just being offered a job, whether it was something I wanted to do or not.


If you leave, do you have to get another job?
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Default Apr 03, 2021 at 04:34 PM
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I wanted to post on here last night, but was too busy and tired to do so. And now I'm free (and how nice it is not being at work!). Yesterday I met with the Facility Manager. I like him a whole and we've always gotten along great. He was a bit hard to talk to because he talks so fast and was telling me things that didn't seem important to me. Also there were a lot of interruptions. He's leaving on May 1st but will stay with the company, have a different position, and work in a different location.

The part most important to me is the mail situation. I explained to him on how it is for me and he seemed to be totally on my side. Also he was telling me about the new tenants coming into the site. In my opinion THERE IS NO GUARANTEE THAT I WILL WORK AT THE SITE WHEN THE NEW BUSINESSES MOVE IN. He did say that he will work on the mail situation but I don't know if anything will get done. I've had some false hopes on this before. Assuming that I will work there when the new businesses move in, it's going to be a disaster with the mail if the set up going on now doesn't change.

As far as getting another job is concerned, providing that I'm not going to work there anymore, I definitely want to just take it easy for at least a couple of months. My finances are very good right now and I'm emotionally exhausted. I feel like getting a new job fairly soon will not work out well for me because of being exhausted.
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As far as getting another job is concerned, providing that I'm not going to work there anymore, I definitely want to just take it easy for at least a couple of months. My finances are very good right now and I'm emotionally exhausted. I feel like getting a new job fairly soon will not work out well for me because of being exhausted.
If you get laid off, you will likely be eligible for unemployment ($300 from the federal govt a week plus what your state provides weekly--the Cares Act makes unemployment pay higher until September 2021); yes, you do have to look for a job while on unemployment but you can set your sights really high (a much higher paying job than you have now) so that you likely won't get the job but if you do--it will be an offer you really should take (on unemployment, you usually have to except the offer). I would recommend you take advantage of unemployment if it comes to be available to you.
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I hope the mail starts getting delivered where you want it to. You are in really good shape to make whatever decision you want about this job. I wonder if you could ask to get laid off if they don't fix the mail.
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Thanks for the great replies, once again. I really appreciate it and felt that the suggestions have been useful for me.

I know I would be eligible for unemployment. But also, I should be eligible for vacation time not taken and severance pay. When they run out, then I should be eligible for Social Security. The last time I was on unemployment was about 16 years ago. It was very brief. In the years before, I was unemployed for a good while and they seemed lax in making sure I was actively looking for work. I recalled turning job offers down and still receiving unemployment. Maybe that's changed now at where I am or certain states are strict about how you go about looking for work.

From what I think, with me having the conversation with the Facility Manager last Friday, there's going to be a change with the front and the Security Guards set up. So it would have been possible that the mail situation would have changed even if I didn't say anything. But I felt like I had to say something and I think it was a good thing I did. Like I said earlier, it's not guaranteed I'm going to have a job when this change comes about. I will insist that the mail situation improve. I prefer not to work with it if it doesn't.

Getting another job right now doesn't appeal to me, unless if it's something that would be hard to resist. I feel very "spent" now and practically unmotivated to do something else. Maybe it's that depression thing with me.
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An update. The company bought out by another company yesterday, so new workers may be coming in by September. One guy told me that he had spoken to a higher-up and that I, along with the guards, will be kept on. The word is that I will be kept on, but it's not official. At least I have not been told directly by anyone important that I will be kept on. I spoke with another worker today and he said that a couple of months ago, he was told that he and his team will be working at a place elsewhere. And today he said that he will have to look for another job because the contracting company he works for fell through. That could happen to me, too.

I don't know what to think. It's good news but I'm not very thrilled. I feel that I could do it if some changes are made to improve some working conditions that I had stated earlier.
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It sounds stressful to me, the work conditions you don't care for combined with all the unknowns.
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This morning I emailed my two supervisors telling them that I want to resign. It took a little while (about two hours) to get a reply back. One supervisor asked me if there's anything they can do for me to keep me staying on. I replied back that I wanted to talk on the phone instead of messaging. One supervisor has to travel for work this week and would not be able to talk, but the other one will. So I made an appointment for Tuesday morning.

I had mixed feelings about doing this. I wanted to to leave and had made financial plans on how I can do it in the worst case scenario. I'd be looking forward to having some time off for myself, but yet I'm scared if this is going to work out. I'm not interested in getting another job because I am just too burned out emotionally. I really wished that it didn't come down to this.
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I hope your conversation goes well this morning.
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So Sorry things are being hard! Please do not give up! i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters that changes can be scary. Hopefully they will listen to what you have to say and try to make some accomodations. It seems like you already have figured this out. That is a good thing i think. Kepe us updated if you wan to. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @will19, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!
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I had a talk with one of the managers yesterday, but he's not the main manager. The other manager was traveling on business. They don't want me to resign. The three of us are tentatively going to talk either on Thursday or Friday. Well anyways, the talk I had yesterday went well, but we didn't come to a real answer. We'll see.

Yesterday, just before talking, I had a little work to do so I had put on some music that I like while I was working. I was playing a song called "Sure Gonna Miss Her" by Gary Lewis (that's Jerry's son). In a way I felt like some of the words to that song was appropriate for how I was feeling even though that song was about losing a girl because she wasn't treated right. The part of that song I can relate to were the words, "I took her love for granted" and "sure gonna miss her". I cried a little bit when I was playing that song. Because I feel like I've been taken for granted, but yet some of the people said that they will miss when if I leave.

Thanks to you all who have replied to me through this fairly difficult time for me. But I am weathering this thing pretty well.
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Well, it's finally done. I have resigned from my job, so it's official! My last day will be on June 4th. It will be nice to have the last day on a four-day work week.

I have a lot of feelings about this.
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Wow, that is a big step! It will be nice to have the summer off (if that's still your plan). Congratulations!
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Well, tomorrow is the last day at work for me. With this weekend coming, I will call it an "indefinite weekend" instead of a long weekend. I can't believe it, it doesn't seem possible! A decision had been made by me and I'm no longer in a whirl now!

I told everyone at work today that Friday will be my last day. They were all shocked. The majority of those whom I told were pretty nice and supportive of my decision. There were some that were skeptical. Some even cried. I had an exit interview this afternoon and it went well. Tonight, I put in an application for Social Security. I am of that age though I might get carded.
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