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Old Nov 18, 2022 at 11:43 AM
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Im not sure that a new job is the answer to your solitude. It seems like there may be other solutions to the problem that dont involve changing jobs. You could volunteer. That way you could interact with people but not affect your livelihood. Why not wait a little longer for current job to return you to previous status?
I see your point. I should clarify further and give more details - that may help in this situation.

So, I do not know if there is a future for me in my current company. My job responsibilities do not spell out a specific career path, and I don't right now see how I can progress within the company - there's no clear path for me there, in other words. To eventually move up from my current role as it is today seems impossible to achieve. I could move into more of a content role, but they're not moving me anytime soon.

This other job opportunity is a hybrid and managerial role that involves responsibilities I think I would like. It's also in a college setting (a well known local university/graduate school), so I would be able to switch out of digital marketing agency life. I don't really want to be in an agency anymore.

The other factor involved is the beyond high expectations of work performance in my current company. My CEO is a perfectionist, and that creates the feeling that the work you do is never good enough. She will always find fault with something you do. I cannot stand that aspect of my current job - the flip side and positive side is it's not a toxic work environment otherwise.

I think most importantly, since I had to reduce my job responsibilities in my current job, I'm afraid that there's no real future for me there. I'm kind of in a no-man's land position that they had to create for me as a result of my mental health breakdown. Now that I am recovered, I don't know where it's leading to.

I hope this helps.... ? Many thanks!

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Old Nov 18, 2022 at 12:34 PM
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I see. But i still think they are 2 separate problems, thats what i am really focusing on. Dont expect a job to solve the loneliness problem, thats putting too much on the job. What if you hate your new coworkers?

Not the wisest to try to kill 2 birds with one stone, thats all im saying.

Also, dont be driven by some random headhunting call. Look for a job when YOU want to. The way this job has been treating you, i dont see them dumping you on short notice, for example. They seem kind.
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Old Nov 18, 2022 at 12:43 PM
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I see. But i still think they are 2 separate problems, thats what i am really focusing on. Dont expect a job to solve the loneliness problem, thats putting too much on the job. What if you hate your new coworkers?

Not the wisest to try to kill 2 birds with one stone, thats all im saying.

Also, dont be driven by some random headhunting call. Look for a job when YOU want to. The way this job has been treating you, i dont see them dumping you on short notice, for example. They seem kind.
I hear ya on those points - they are valid points. And thanks so much for your input!

I suppose it can't hurt to at least explore the job opportunity - if I don't get an offer, then it's not an issue and I stay in my company. If I happen to get an offer, then I have a choice. I think I'd like to keep the possibility open, and then I have options.

Thanks! Talking it through more helped me to make a decision. I will see what they have to offer.

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Ok, well, after reading roughly 10 negative reviews on this organization/college, I pulled my application and cancelled the interview.

Each review spoke of a "toxic work environment". "micro aggressions" from upper management, upper management playing the blame game with their underlings, a lack of supportive work culture, a lack of employee morale, a mass employee exodus and revolving door, a lowered benefits package, overworked employees for lower industry pay, a lack of organization in the executive team, HR doesn't care about employees, and a general lack of care for employee well being. Well, that's all I needed to read in order to pull the plug on this one.

In contrast, my current company 100% supports their employees, they deeply care about maintaining a high employee morale and they care about employee well being, they care about upholding a strong company culture that respects each employee along the chain. It is a very unique and healthy work environment! I am too scared to leave that especially when I read so many negative reviews coming from employees of this other organization. I finally have a healthy work environment - something that has been missing in my life for YEARS.

So, even though I am uncertain of my career path in my current company, at least I am treated really well, with respect and I am cared about.

So, no thanks to this college... I am glad I cancelled.

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Old Nov 27, 2022 at 09:56 AM
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"micro aggressions" from upper management, upper management playing the blame game with their underlings, a lack of supportive work culture, a lack of employee morale, a mass employee exodus and revolving door, a lowered benefits package, overworked employees for lower industry pay, a lack of organization in the executive team, HR doesn't care about employees, and a general lack of care for employee well being.
Aside from the above it is a great place to work! 😝

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Excellent!! 😃 I am so happy for you!
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Aside from the above it is a great place to work! 😝


Excellent!! 😃 I am so happy for you!
LOL - yeah, aside from ALL of that.... hahaha.

And thanks so much @Bill3! I am actually quite happy with my current company.

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Old Dec 06, 2022 at 06:21 AM
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Ugh. I had to volunteer to do a website audit. My boss asked our team who could take it on, so I volunteered in knowing it would be in my best interest to do so, or rather, since I have the least work to do, that I should volunteer to help my team.

However, now I am having major performance anxiety over doing the audit. These are really hard for me, and I only have 10 hours to complete it.

Someone on my team is going to help me, but not until after Wed, and it's due by Friday!

I am very anxious and am practically having an anxiety attack over it. I know I am going to need more than 10 hours.

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Old Dec 06, 2022 at 07:46 AM
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Can you ask for more help?

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Can you ask for more help?

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And I don't think so - I think everyone on my team is bogged down in work.

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I am getting help today from a team member, and another will help me tomorrow. The way it's put together right now is awful. I don't like my audit - I can't do these for some reason. Maybe because I was never taught!

On a separate note, there's something else that happened at work that I don't feel good about. My CEO sent my team an article that she wrote about content ideation. Since I'm the main person who has been in charge of ideating content, I chimed in and spoke up in response. She had asked my team for our thoughts, and I was the only one who replied.

Well, I gave her my thoughts, which were all positive about her article and her strategies, and I also shared with her my own strategy document and said that my process works very well for ideating content in bulk or at scale. Then I shared a totally different type of strategy that I had come across in an article I read.

Well, she didn't reply at all to me! And I feel so offended and blown off. Like, I am not worthy of a response??? Or my thoughts were not worthy of a response? I feel stupid now for having replied at all! And I like my CEO, generally speaking, but this is offensive to me. She talks about creating a respectful work environment, but she doesn't even take a moment to reply to my thoughts?

So, I am really down on work right now... for these reasons. I am not feeling good about my audit and I am not feeling good because my CEO blew me off.

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Old Dec 07, 2022 at 10:09 AM
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No wonder you are upset about the CEO's unresponsiveness.

How long has the CEO had the email?
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Old Dec 07, 2022 at 12:50 PM
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Since yesterday morning!! I posted it publicly too.

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If itís sent only yesterday maybe just give more time. The number of emails from number of people we receive in a day is astronomical. Itís not physically possible to reply to all of them within one day. And then sometimes we think we replied, but we didnít. Iíd not read too much into it. Maybe because my work day so extremely fast paced, I totally understand not getting replies. Maybe give it more time
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Old Dec 07, 2022 at 01:09 PM
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Itís not by email. Itís in a group online chat for my whole team and sheís been posting in the chat since then.

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Itís not by email. Itís in a group online chat for my whole team and sheís been posting in the chat since then.
Oh Iíd ask her what she thought of your ideas. Our administration is notorious ignoring things.
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Oh Iíd ask her what she thought of your ideas. Our administration is notorious ignoring things.
Iím too reserved and nervous to outright ask her.

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Iím too reserved and nervous to outright ask her.
Ask her in the email. You donít even work in the office so itís not like you have to go to her office. You donít want to assume reasons for lack of reply and stressing about it. There might be an explanation. Other option is just let it go.

I honestly had no idea you are reserved! You are meeting and talking to all kind of strangers at concerts. You also share lots of very personal stuff with pretty random people! I thought you are not reserved at all. Reserved person wouldnít ever do things you describe! Are you reserved only at work?
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Ask her in the email. You donít even work in the office so itís not like you have to go to her office. You donít want to assume reasons for lack of reply and stressing about it. There might be an explanation. Other option is just let it go.

I honestly had no idea you are reserved! You are meeting and talking to all kind of strangers at concerts. You also share lots of very personal stuff with pretty random people! I thought you are not reserved at all. Reserved person wouldnít ever do things you describe! Are you reserved only at work?
Yes, I am far more reserved at work. I think I'll have to just let it go.

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Well, I've finished my audit and it literally took blood, sweat, and yes, some actual tears. I was in tears today over it.

Now I have to wait and see how my boss picks it apart and what additional work I need to do on it after he reviews it.

I feel I have earned my keep by doing this audit, even though it was super hard for me. I guess I am a bit proud that I got through it, despite the difficulty for me.

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Congratulations! And a day early!

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