Negative thinking in new job when faced with new challenges

unaluna · Dec 14, 2022, 10:56 AM

Is there a book you can read to learn about this aspect of your job?

divine1966 · Dec 14, 2022, 04:54 PM

Did you get the info from him today? Shallow might mean just lacks details? There are resources online with examples like semrush. Is there any training about it? I am sure you can learn it. Someone just has to show you

Have Hope · Dec 14, 2022, 05:04 PM

Thanks so much for your replies!!

My company does audits in a very particular way so I must learn THEIR way. I know there’s materials out that that can also help me to learn these better. He did provide me with some helpful direction this morning. I will be able to finish it on time, thankfully!! I’m far along now in it… I think the recommendations I’m coming up with are pretty solid. Hopefully!!! We shall see. He picked apart my first version.

Have Hope · Dec 17, 2022, 09:08 AM

Well, he (my boss) graded my work to help me understand where I am performance-wise. The first version of my audit he graded as a C. My second version he graded as a B or B-.

So, I improved, yet there's still lots of room for more improvement.

I was worried that if I failed at this task, that they would let me go from my job. I hope they are willing to work with me on improving my work output. I think they will be, or else I probably would have been fired by now.

divine1966 · Dec 17, 2022, 11:54 AM

B is acceptable. They might need to provide more training to get you to an A. Or you might have to do more audits to gain more practice. Personally I’d ask them for more audits so you can get more experience in doing those

Have Hope · Dec 17, 2022, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

B is acceptable. They might need to provide more training to get you to an A. Or you might have to do more audits to gain more practice. Personally I’d ask them for more audits so you can get more experience in doing those

B is certainly better than a C so I’ll take it. I imagine more audits are coming my way. I will volunteer to do them too.

Have Hope · Jan 06, 2023, 05:50 AM

I am doing OK at work, but not stellar. I want to be doing a stellar job. I am used to doing that level of work, not just OK work.

But honestly? This last year (2022) took a real beating on me. I had to take a month off from work, then my father died, I was being abused at home, then I had to separate from my husband and now I am going through a divorce. All very stressful situations.

I try my best, but some days I do slack off and I rest here and there.

The recruiter approached me again about the university job. I turned it down for a second time. They are still looking. I decided I really cannot deal with a job change on top of everything else right now.

TGIF. I wish I were doing better, but I guess OK is better than terrible?

divine1966 · Jan 06, 2023, 11:27 AM

When your divorce settles down, then you could focus on other things. Death in the family, illness and then divorce is a lot to juggle.

Have Hope · Jan 07, 2023, 05:32 AM

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When your divorce settles down, then you could focus on other things. Death in the family, illness and then divorce is a lot to juggle.

True - it has been a lot and all back to back.

Have Hope · Jan 07, 2023, 05:33 AM

They also let someone go yesterday. Not from my team. From the paid advertising team. I keep thinking they could let me go any day now. I don’t feel valuable to them.

Do you think I’m a potential lawsuit and that’s why they keep me on? Because I had mental health issues and had to take a full month off? Could I be a legal liability and that’s why I haven’t been let go?

divine1966 · Jan 07, 2023, 08:53 AM

A month off is nothing unusual and people do it all the time for their own illness or taking care of sick family. It happens all the time and I am sure your company had others being sick for prolonged period. A month isn’t even that long. That’s what FMLA is for

Well if you were repeatedly not doing your job causing others all kind of problems and constantly written up but still are there, I’d say possibly it’s because you might threaten to sue. But you are NOT repeatedly not doing your job, right? You do perform tasks they assign and it has to be valuable unless they assign busy work? Why would they fire you

Have Hope · Jan 07, 2023, 09:00 AM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

A month off is nothing unusual and people do it all the time for their own illness or taking care of sick family. It happens all the time and I am sure your company had others being sick for prolonged period. A month isn’t even that long. That’s what FMLA is for

Well if you were repeatedly not doing your job causing others all kind of problems and constantly written up but still are there, I’d say possibly it’s because you might threaten to sue. But you are NOT repeatedly not doing your job, right? You do perform tasks they assign and it has to be valuable unless they assign busy work? Why would they fire you

Because I often feel my work is not of the quality they seek - that I don’t quite meet their expectations. I do all that is asked of me and to the best of my abilities.

I’m the first person they’ve dealt with who had to take a leave of absence. It doesn’t happen there.

divine1966 · Jan 07, 2023, 03:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Have Hope

Because I often feel my work is not of the quality they seek - that I don’t quite meet their expectations. I do all that is asked of me and to the best of my abilities.

I’m the first person they’ve dealt with who had to take a leave of absence. It doesn’t happen there.

No one ever had a surgery? Had sick family? Gave birth? Had cancer treatments? Were in the accident with long term effect? Is this a new company? How is it possible that people never took FMLA? Unless maybe is an extremely small company or very new. No one never ever gets sick or has seriously ill family member? Are they saying it to you to make feel bad? It’s extremely weird that these are all miracle people or something

Wonder if you just feel like you don’t measure up but in reality you are doing fine

Have Hope · Jan 07, 2023, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by divine1966

No one ever had a surgery? Had sick family? Gave birth? Had cancer treatments? Were in the accident with long term effect? Is this a new company? How is it possible that people never took FMLA? Unless maybe is an extremely small company or very new. No one never ever gets sick or has seriously ill family member? Are they saying it to you to make feel bad? It’s extremely weird that these are all miracle people or something

Wonder if you just feel like you don’t measure up but in reality you are doing fine

Maybe she meant they never had someone have to leave due to mental health reasons. And the company is very small and is only six years old. Maybe I am doing fine. I don’t know.

Molinit · Jan 10, 2023, 07:27 AM

I think you're doing fine and just overly beating yourself up over a perceived (by you) lack of skill or accomplishment. I do this too. Your posts about your soon-to-be ex-husband were very empathetic toward his problems and issues. Now that he's not sucking your energy for self-compassion, turn that energy toward yourself and be kinder to yourself. Things are hard when you're growing - you're learning new skills, learning to enjoy your alone time. Just let things be and see where it goes. Start looking at this part of your life like an adventure and grow into it.

Have Hope · Jan 10, 2023, 07:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Molinit

I think you're doing fine and just overly beating yourself up over a perceived (by you) lack of skill or accomplishment. I do this too. Your posts about your soon-to-be ex-husband were very empathetic toward his problems and issues. Now that he's not sucking your energy for self-compassion, turn that energy toward yourself and be kinder to yourself. Things are hard when you're growing - you're learning new skills, learning to enjoy your alone time. Just let things be and see where it goes. Start looking at this part of your life like an adventure and grow into it.

You have no idea how much you helped me right now by posting these most encouraging words. This is exactly what I am going through - growing pains. And yes, I am overly hard on myself and need much more self compassion.

Thank you, @Molinit!

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