Big Life Changes

I'm having some big life changes recently. About 2-3 months ago, I found out I was pregnant. My husband (28M) and I (28F) were so surprised and excited, but unfortunately I miscarried. I then needed surgery to help with completion of the miscarriage. Overall this experience was traumatizing and plunged me into depression. In the meantime (end of June, early July) my husband started a new job. We are very close and spend a lot of time together - this job requires travel every week at least a night or two. He loves the job and I encouraged him to move forward with it, but the travel has been hard on both of us. I started drinking one weekend and no call/no showed to work one day so I got fired. Now I'm working 2.5 days per week while I figure out what to do but I genuinely don't think I will be able to go back to work full-time and I'm trying to deal with this embarrassment/shame because I grew up learning the value of hard work. I just worry that I'm never going to find the balance with this illness. I'm afraid I'm going to start getting a "bad reputation" in my professional circle. I worked my tail off through undergrad and grad school to get this degree and now I don't even think I have the mental wellness/ability to hold down a job in this profession.

HI @cellogal219 - welcome to MSF. I am sorry for the loss of your child. That must be really difficult for a mother to handle the grief and other feelings.

So many changes and you have this pressure to perform when what you are crying out inside may be a voice wanting time to heal. Maybe the healing of yourself is important enough to make some kind of sacrifice in terms of career until you get feeling better.

Have you considered a therapist (talk therapy) or a psychiatrist (medications that treat the source of the problem in the brain's receptors)? @CANDC

I am so sorry for what you have been through. Of course it stresses you off. However, I think you should take a pause, focus on your mental health before getting back on track. I am sure after you'll take care of your mental state everything will become so much better. Good Luck!