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Default May 27, 2024 at 08:20 AM
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I'm struggling to start my professional career and, I am starting to lose hope that anything good is about to happen in my life, I am even feeling insecure and ashamed writing this.

To add some context, I'm a 22Y old living in a foreign country pursuing a master's degree, only because my family believes that life abroad would be better for me, but things are not looking good so far, I am Book-Smart not so good with hands-on since my schooling days I was behind getting good grades and doing well in exams. Still, I never found anything I studied or learned interesting, Sometimes I think the only mistake I made so far was going behind grades and raising expectations of me, my family always assumed I could work things out by myself. and they don't need to worry about me.

The trend in the job market decided my career when I was about to graduate high school, engineering is where life looked good for my family and they suggested I try to get into top engineering collages but I never paid attention in my last 2-years of high school and barely cleared my exams, but that did not lower any expectations on me, as they believed it was because of the environment I was in during those years, then I was admitted into a below mediocre engineering university don't know how but I got my bachelor's degree without failing in any course in those 4 years but did not get any job after that, but don't know why but my family still saw the potential in me and told me that there are going to send me abroad to get a master's degree and find a job there.

I did not want to take their money anymore so I said I would take a student loan to pay for the degree, they were reluctant at first but they agreed, everything happened so fast, and just like that I was in a foreign country, again getting good grades but barely anything practical, and I will be graduating this December probably without any job offer, with my lack of hands-on knowledge and experience, so I might have to go back and probably have no idea about what to do, but only now with a debt of $40000.

I know you guys might think "You still have till December to try to gain some skills and land a job", Yes I am trying to do that and I am giving my 100% but it simply is not working for me I am seeing people with more relevant experience in the field struggling to land an internship, and then there's me with no experience in any field.
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Default May 27, 2024 at 03:24 PM
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Your location says "USA" -- I don't know if that's where your family lives. In USA, being an engineer isn't so prestigious -- lawyers or doctors are held in much higher esteem. But in other countries, engineers are held in high regard (or so I've heard).

I've been in engineering even before computers were household items.

By the time I got out of school, I was so tired and bored of anything related to engineering, it was difficult for me to fake enthusiasm for any job. (In fact I looked into graduate school, but none of the schools seemed interesting.) I started to see a therapist at this time, partly because my father died, but also because of the extreme dread I felt about life after school.

The only reason I got an interview (and then hired) was that one of my professors recommended me. I filled the immediate need that the company had, and so I accepted their job offer because I had nothing better to do.

Anyway, companies that hire New College Graduates (NCGs) understand that you'll need training and mentoring. They like the NCG because the NCGs haven't learned any bad habits, and the companies can offer lower pay. So in this regard, you may be more desirable than "people with more relevant experience in the field."

I hope that this response gives you some encouragement, even if all it does is assure you that I've felt this way too.

Good luck!

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