Do I need to Find a New Job?

Again???
I'm not sure I have the strength to even look for a new job, but things keep adding up that make me wonder if I should start looking.

I've been there since March 1st and have not been well received. There was a married man that I was told harasses the women, and he came in, and I waited on him, and then he called back at the credit union to flirt with another woman. This triggered me, and I got very upset about this, and people became upset with me, saying there isn't much they can do.

Also, no one will give me their cell phone numbers in case I'm running late. They each have one another's phone numbers, and I only have my bosses.

Today when I went in one girl said you look terrible and I said I was sick she ran upstairs to tell her mother who is also the CEO who called me and said I better go home before I get everyone else sick to which I said I need the hours I don't have sick time. When I started, 2 women were so sick for weeks. Coughing and sneezing. Blowing their nose. How come they could work while sick?
She said I could come in 2 hours early on Friday.
Then I began researching, and there's a new law called New York State Paid sick time is mandatory for employers. For every 30 hours worked, one sick hour is accumulated.I texted this to my boss, and she said she'll look into it.
We are merging with a new Credit Union on July 1st, and I also asked if I can go full-time since this new credit union is looking for a full-time teller.
I was told we will revisit the subject in July. ( also our pay will be held the first 16 work days of July due to payroll changes and bi-weekly pay)
For me, it's just kind of adding up and making me feel as if I need to look for a new job.
However, I want to make a smart move and educated move, and I don't want to have to switch jobs as I am 56 this year.

Is this just a normal work environment? Does everyone put up with some sort of crap at their job?
Maybe I should just stick it out...

How would I know when to leave? I don't want to act too hastily.

Or maybe my MI is causing my perspective to be askew. Maybe I'm over sensitive

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To answer the issues in order:

- I don't understand what the upset about the man was - are you upset he didn't flirt with you? Regardless, he shouldn't be doing that anyway.

- You shouldn't be communicating with anyone but your immediate supervisor about "running late" or any other attendance thing. I have been working at my place of employment for 6 years and only 2 people have my cell #, one of which is my boss.

- The sickness and the whole sick time issue - if you are part-time and don't get sick time then it is what it is. If you are researching laws and presenting the law to your boss, this is not going to be viewed as a positive thing. You are saying to them "you are operating illegally" and how do you expect an employer to take that? You could also have reported it to New York State Department of Labor and let them sort it out.

- Going full time after the merge - this can't even be answered until the merger occurs and a new look at labor vs business needs is done. Asking prior to this big event is not going to get you an answer.

- How long is the probation period and when is your review? If your probation is only 90 days it doesn't seem like you're going to be there past that period. If it's 6 months you maybe could turn it around and last but you'll need to just put your head down, do your work and maybe you'll survive.

Frankly, IMO this is a normal environment when there is a group of ladies who know each other well and a newcomer comes in, which is why I don't work in medical offices or banks because I don't operate well in that environment. It gets real "mean girl" like and I'm not in high school anymore.

Here is a part-time bank-related customer service remote job (since you have that experience) and it won't be up for long

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You were there only 3 months. Too early to share cell numbers with people. Flirting is neither here nor there. Look at your pay stub. It would say how many sick hours you got.

Yes you have to put up with some crap everywhere. Sometimes it depends how badly you need a job.

I'm just replying now. I can't believe it this many months later. I was not upset that the man did not flirt with me. I was upset because I felt threatened by his behavior as I have been SA.

The problem with not having anyone else's number is that when my boss is off, I contact the ladies to let them know I'm running late. Now I have to contact the main office since the merger took place. And then they will contact everyone else. However, everyone at the new Credit Union shares their phone numbers because they know it's important to have communication. For example, I usually get to work early, and there are no cars in the parking lot. So I sat and waited by the time my boss arrived she said Debbie was already in the building and that I could go in. If I had Debbie's number, she could have texted me and let me know. Come on in, I'm here.

I do have full time now, and I still can not make ends meet. The new Credit Union pulled my boss's second-hand girl and took her to the other location. My boss is so stressed that she cries at her desk and says she wants to shoot herself. She is very short and curt, and every day looks like her head is about to explode. It creates a very stressful environment. And I just don't mesh with her. The other two girls seem to do okay with her

I've taken some time off due to being very sick with diverticulitis. I know this has been an issue because I got spoken to. Actually it's the third time I've been spoken to about my work quality since March. I have job hopped for a very long time and I want to stick this one out. And I'm trying to develop thicker skin.

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Coworkers don’t need to know you are running late . You either call admin or they’ll see you when you arrive. How often are you late and why? In first 3 months on the job you should never be late. I was probably late to work twice in 20 years on the same job and both times it was unavoidable road emergency as I drive an hour to work .

I am sorry you had SA. It’s awful. But I’d not let this man upset you. You only know about it from others and he’s not bothering you. Him calling other women is not something you need to worry about

Honestly just focus on your job quality and don’t let other things bother you

" Dont let these things bother me"? As if i chose to let them bother me? As if its that simple to turn off my triggers and mental illness? Thats a very insensitive comment.These are not things that are easy for me. My co-workers all text each other socially and a few flat out said they won't give me their number.
I'm never late always early. But like I said, I was sitting in the lot waiting when one woman was inside already. Had she been nice enough to tell me, I could have gone in already but I don't have her number.

At the new Credit union I already have most of their numbers. They hand them out freely knowing it's how most people communicate nowadays

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I am just quoting what you said about needing their numbers in case you run late. So I commented on that. If you don’t run late, then it’s a moot point.

I do understand feeling left out if they communicate via text socially, but it’s not something required or expected. Sharing personal numbers isn’t a job requirement. That’s work place and not a social event.

I am sorry. I didn’t mean to sound insensitive. You are right that you can’t control or triggers or what upsets you. But you expected others to do something about it and they were upset with your expectations. This man didn’t bother you. He flirted with someone else. Someone else is perhaps ok with it. Most of what you heard of him is third party info and maybe a gossip. You can’t control your triggers but you can control what you expect of others. Now if this man harassed you, I’d expect administration to take care of it after your complaint. Him calling other women or what not it’s not something you can control

Working world could be a hard place. Sometimes just focusing on a quality of your job is the only thing that will get you through. Of course you don’t have to take mine or anyone else’s suggestions.

Good luck