Mixed-up: Thank you for the compliment, though I don't think of myself as brave! Years ago, with my first T, it would take an entire session to bring up anything about my feelings with her. Then I stumbled over the words. It was very hard and painful, but she was very accepting. My H wasn't. He was so jealous, and always taunted me about being "in love with my T" He was very jealous. Neither of us understood transference too well.

With my current T, I didn't want to go through the same thing again, but I realized later that I actually did want to have those intense feelings like I had before. Very confusing to me. I was very much ashamed, but couldn't stop the "addiction" or "obsession" or maybe better to call it transference. I don't know what to call it. Trying to get my unmet needs met is what my T said.

I had to be open about it, because I didn't want to go from T to T with the same problem. With a couple of other Ts, it didn't happen. Also women. I was afraid to see a male T because I'd be totally "in love", I figured. No T ever said it was an "attachment" problem. Just that I had unmet needs from infancy and that I can't redo the past. Sorry to be rambling about this--just have to get it out, and then I won't think so much about it, as I've got lots to do today other than obsess about therapy.