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Originally Posted by beadlady29
Every time T suggests to us to comfort each other bells whistles and foghorns sound off in her head in a major way..........we have not really explained that to him very much.........Me just telled him that it sounded like a wierd thing to do and left it at that .........too embarassing dont think he would get it anyway and he would just tell us to comfort them any way so like what's the point ya know????? The thought of comforting one another is so foreign to bead that it is aolmost like hearing a 4 letter dirty word......
Mary, I think that you need to talk to T about this. It can help to understand what is going on by you talking about your resistance to it.
You need each other T telled Me.........WHHYYYYYY???????
Because they are all a piece of you.
dont want them to be there..............altho cant seem to be able to hate or ignore them away.............T said mary asked him last week why is getting rid of the others any different then cutting off a arm or a leg or cutting your hair......his answer was..........this is so dumb.........dont want to be nice to them even iffen it would make em SHUT the f up because we dont want them to be there to begin with much less like them!!!!! No one will answer that ???? in a way that beads can understand it!!!!!!!!!WHY???????????????????????????????
Debbie How in the world does splitting off into 15 different personalities equal dealing with the past well?
The splitting helped you to survive when you were a child. As an adult it isn't so helpful. To function better, however, their needs to be communication and understanding with you all. Integration occurs down this communication and understanding path too.
We give T credit where credit is ude at least he was smatr enought to realize that we could not handle any EVent digging today......and yeah, we do think he's got beads goodest interests at heart..........
So you spoke your needs to T and he did listen and hear you! Good Work!
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I am sorry that I missed this post yesterday! 
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