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Originally Posted by flyerfan24
Maybe a guys side?
If the entry that upsets him is about him and negative........perhaps he feels it is secretive? Is it better to tell him face to face when you are bothered by him or his actions, rather than have your feelings in a diary? Do you leave your diary locked away and he breaks into it or is it easily available to him should he want to see it? Do you mind he sees your feelings? Wouldn't you want him to know in the first place?
I can definitely not understand his trouble over the past seperation.........especially of his own doings!
For me.....I would want to be able to see the good with the bad if you had a diary.....I would hope to read a diary that mentioned your good days as well as you bad ones. If it was all bad I would be concerned. I've writen letters to myself......not unlike a diary or journal........I find writing things out helps me see things from different sides.......I find it works for me.... and I imagine that the journal writting is similar........but whatever I write, and about whom ever it is, I am willing to say or share with the person I choose as my partner in life. I just find it works best for me and I dont feel I am hiding something from them. Even in my current problem, posted here...I have and do communicate my good thoughts and bad, in hopes of reaching a middle ground to be happy. I do let her know I psoted her should she want to see what others thing as well.........for me that is what being a relaitonship is about...open and honest.
If you are unable to talk with your guy about your feelings and concerns as well as the more positive things in your relationship......I'd be questioning things a lot.
to me the whole point in writing in your journal is to help resolve issues as well as celibrate the good things in your day and life. We have each.....and we should be able to share them with the one person in our lives we call "ours"!
While I would hope life is open and free of worry and there is no reaosn for privacy like this I feel........if that is the case for you....I sincerely hope you take another approach then.......
Try the email route.....its what i do...not because I am keeping it private I just find it more productive. And it should allow you the privacy you wish.
I hope my way of seeing it helps.
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Most of the thngs i wrote in my diary like my ptsd flashbacks and things I would talk to him about. There were alot of good things in there. But on somedays he would do something that would make me angry and instead of arguing about it I would write it down, then a month later he would read it and get mad at me. As far as being secretive, there are things about me that are my secrets. Things i hold to myself. They are locked inside to keep from hurting others feelings. My diary was my outlet. And if you were to tell your partner everything and anything (I've been there) it would cause alot of un-necessery troubles.